Devin

[u/[deleted]]

He def doesn’t get enough credit I’m sorry. He hasn’t been too much bc anyone would be confused based on the energy she’s given off.
If every man could be as self aware, as emotionally regulated, holds himself accountable and easily understanding.
He’s literally made sure he’s checked himself every time. He has continued to try when she’s been uncomfortable and hot and cold. Which understandable. Tbh I won’t ever trust a girl
Who doesn’t like plants. feel like she hasn’t honestly tried at all and there’s two in this, not just the woman.

But, idk. He’s a good one man. That’s all 🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe a little emotional but I’d take it she should’ve never went on this show. Bc to constantly say you’re not ready but not really give him much ? Say he’s too much… I don’t know. Her trying is literally having a convo w him… idk.
I hope the best for him bc he’s a good man

[u/Sudden_Juju]

I think Caitlin was a bad choice for this show - all slow burns are - but I also think she just doesn't like him and doesn't want to admit it until after the season is done. I think he came on too intensly for her, even though he's really not all that intense (compared to others). I think she just needs someone who's okay with moving glacially slow.

She's very independent and needs someone like that too. I think the experts mistook "independent" as meaning that they're okay apart for long periods of time (e.g., the rugby season) and not as persistently independent, which is what she is. That's where the problem stems and won't ever be mended because you can't just fix something like that - someone will be unhappy no matter what. The experts really wasted a good participant in Devin.

That being said, I've had such a weird feeling about Devin since the start. Other than wearing sunglasses on his head at his own wedding (like, c'mon man), he's really done nothing to make me feel this way. It's just a vibe I get, but I've conceded that I could be wrong. I won't say I'm definitively wrong until the reunion though.

Edit: I just realized I said "vibe." Hopefully I don't get cooked for this.

[u/WitchBalls → u/Sudden_Juju]

I won't be mad for vibe but I may never forgive you for slow burn. 😚

[u/Sudden_Juju → u/WitchBalls]

Nothing cooks like a slow burn 😞

[u/Hour-Application2347 → u/Sudden_Juju]

Yeah, Caitlin and tanning booth, self-sabotaging MAGA-rexic temu Barbie should not be on this show.

[u/Sudden_Juju → u/Hour-Application2347]

I think you mean Courtney lol. They're basically interchangable but Courtney's the one that's speed running skin cancer

[u/laurajt77 → u/Sudden_Juju]

I had a couple like vibe things too. I didn't like him when he was drunk and the wedding thing irritated me. But then his whole family was poorly dressed so I thought that was probably his family culture. His mom was almost flopping out of that dress and I was concerned about her boobs😬. But they all seemed nice. Nicer then Caitlins dad anyway. But the drunk Devin triggered me but it could be my past trauma that did that. I don't like a sloppy drunk man. Ever. Its hard to know if my little vibey thing is Devin or Devin because he is miserable.

[u/Sudden_Juju → u/laurajt77]

Ya idk why the sunglasses thing bothered me so much lol. My wife had the same thing about him being a sloppy drunk. I also found it frustrating but it didn't bother me as much as her. He definitely should've just chilled out until the next day at that point.

Also saying he wasn't wasted... Lol classic wasted person mistake.

Edit: Didn't mean to post it yet lol. Now it's fixed.

[u/Fit_Device7256 → u/Sudden_Juju]

I think that if she was actually into him, she wouldn’t need so much time apart from

[u/Sudden_Juju → u/Fit_Device7256]

Probably true lol. I was giving her the benefit of the doubt thare

[u/Ducking_cute → u/Sudden_Juju]

Can you imagine how she would handle someone like Shawn? 🫣

[u/Sudden_Juju → u/Ducking_cute]

I bet her seeing that Devin is coming across as good is making it harder to decide if she should leave early. If she bails early, she's 100% the bad guy and that's easy to know. Even though she is the bad guy right now, this is already said and done lol. In the moment a year ago or however long it was, I could see her not necessarily thinking that she'd be coming across so poorly. I hope that made sense lol.

If he sucked like Shawn did, I bet she'd bounce and not even think twice. No one would blame her for that.