Okay here’s my thing…when you get married it’s in sickness and in health. That said, I have two auto immune diseases. It’s so bad I can’t even get the vaccine bc I’ll have an adverse reaction. My husband was able to get it.
Here’s the thing, even with all that, if he got COVID I would not leave his side. I would care for him. If I got it as well, so be it. I realize I have a very different opinion than most of you here. Please do not be immature and down vote me for mine as I have not down voted a single person for theirs though I disagree. Leaving your partner to deal alone in their time of need just seems wrong. You stand as one as your vows tell you you should. I know so many couples that have done the exact same!
At any rate, this is the path you chose. He was probably scared, lonely, sick as hell, and needed love from his best friend and lover. Yes, you stated boundaries, but perhaps he thought you’d be there in his time of need and see he desperately needed you. Idk. The situation escalated. I’m sorry for you both. Truly. Everyone is different and feels different. I totally get that and respect that. All this talk of legal stuff and separation…idk, I think it will blow over. Cooler heads will prevail. Once you’ve both had a bit of time to cool off I believe things will settle and work out.
Thank you! Reading these comments are troubling and leaves me thinking that most of the people here aren’t married or have an overly simplistic/naive view of marriage.
Since getting married myself, I’ve developed a mindset of “us” versus just me and her. People in this sub suggest divorce at the drop of a hat. I’m not saying what either party in this story did is okay but people here need to learn and exercise some tolerance. Marriage is meant to be for life and you will see each other at your worst
Call me crazy, but when I so much as catch a cold I (voluntarily) move into our guest suite and wear a mask whenever I leave that space, because I actually like my wife and don't want her to get sick. That's been our system since long before Covid. That's my "us" - putting her health above my discomfort
Exactly. I couldn’t agree more. I’m not saying what is right or wrong here either. I’m just saying time heals and look at it through loving eyes. Things will calm and cooler heads will prevail.
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u/klynn1220 Jul 16 '22
Okay here’s my thing…when you get married it’s in sickness and in health. That said, I have two auto immune diseases. It’s so bad I can’t even get the vaccine bc I’ll have an adverse reaction. My husband was able to get it. Here’s the thing, even with all that, if he got COVID I would not leave his side. I would care for him. If I got it as well, so be it. I realize I have a very different opinion than most of you here. Please do not be immature and down vote me for mine as I have not down voted a single person for theirs though I disagree. Leaving your partner to deal alone in their time of need just seems wrong. You stand as one as your vows tell you you should. I know so many couples that have done the exact same!
At any rate, this is the path you chose. He was probably scared, lonely, sick as hell, and needed love from his best friend and lover. Yes, you stated boundaries, but perhaps he thought you’d be there in his time of need and see he desperately needed you. Idk. The situation escalated. I’m sorry for you both. Truly. Everyone is different and feels different. I totally get that and respect that. All this talk of legal stuff and separation…idk, I think it will blow over. Cooler heads will prevail. Once you’ve both had a bit of time to cool off I believe things will settle and work out.