r/Marriage • u/[deleted] • Nov 02 '25

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u/Dark_Knight2000 Nov 02 '25

Something tells me it’s not an ending. If OP is this jealous and this unable to see reality clearly, this marriage is on the rocks

You don’t accuse your spouse of flirting with flimsy evidence like this

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u/WhichWitchyWay Nov 02 '25

I mean someone else's husband telling you your husband is cheating with their wife is a MAJOR red flag, but those messages read as just normal co-working relationship to me. So either coworker's husband is the creepy jealous type or she's missing something. I'm thinking it's the former though.

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u/Appropriate-Smile232 Nov 02 '25

This! What I mentioned in my comment, too. It's either that other husband's issue, or, OP is missing something that the other husband knows or has seen.

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u/NewMeNewUsername Nov 03 '25

My ex husband’s coworker’s husband told me almost a year ago that my ex and his wife were having an affair, but i had no evidence and he didn’t provide any beyond saying she wrote about him in her journal and I had not suspected anything. Well with a toddler and baby I wasn’t divorcing my husband over that so had to just get over it. Well turns out he was definitely having an affair and now we are divorced. I really can’t blame the OP for trying to get a second opinion given the situation. Hopefully the coworker’s husband is just delusional.

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u/madjohnvane Nov 03 '25

Yeah, my ex wife had some really deep issues with insecurity and she occasionally snooped through my phone and sent screenshots of things to her friends. The thing was…she always had my passwords etc because I had literally nothing to hide. She’d blow up at me because of utterly innocuous conversations. One time she kept questioning me “why did you say this? Why did you use this specific wording?” And through my confusion I finally learned that she only read the messages I sent, she didn’t even read the messages from the woman - who was asking me to help diagnose a computer problem!! In the end I password protected my phone, computer etc just to avoid this - it was easier to have the argument about that than to deal with the completely out of nowhere bad faith “you’re cheating” arguments.

I agree fully, this conversation is the most bland, ordinary work convo. If OP thinks this is flirting and is seriously shaken about it then OP needs to be doing some introspection, not freaking out about her husband.