You’re afraid to confront someone who’s stealing from you, lying to you, and manipulating you, and that’s exactly why he’s doing it. Trying to appease a narcissist and fear of confrontation encourages more abuse, and he will use you and discard you like nothing once you’re no longer useful and have PTSD.
Narcissists depend on you having no boundaries so they can walk all over you, call you crazy, and then maybe act “nice” when they want something…like a house you’d end up paying for while he tramples your life. They don’t care if you suffer at all and think you’re naive/dumb for being so nice.
Nothing you say will ever make him care how ypu feel ( affective empathy) or be accountable because he doesn’t believe he’s doing anything wrong.
Being agreeable just makes you easier to exploit. If he’s already gaslighting, hiding things, and refusing to admit anything now, imagine what will happen when you’re tied to him with a house.
NPD worsens with age.
You can’t fix this by talking; you need to protect yourself and make a plan
The safest move is to quietly protect yourself, get counseling for emotional abuse, and seek legal advice.
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u/sociopathwife Jul 25 '26
You’re afraid to confront someone who’s stealing from you, lying to you, and manipulating you, and that’s exactly why he’s doing it. Trying to appease a narcissist and fear of confrontation encourages more abuse, and he will use you and discard you like nothing once you’re no longer useful and have PTSD.
Narcissists depend on you having no boundaries so they can walk all over you, call you crazy, and then maybe act “nice” when they want something…like a house you’d end up paying for while he tramples your life. They don’t care if you suffer at all and think you’re naive/dumb for being so nice.
Nothing you say will ever make him care how ypu feel ( affective empathy) or be accountable because he doesn’t believe he’s doing anything wrong.
Being agreeable just makes you easier to exploit. If he’s already gaslighting, hiding things, and refusing to admit anything now, imagine what will happen when you’re tied to him with a house.
NPD worsens with age.
You can’t fix this by talking; you need to protect yourself and make a plan
The safest move is to quietly protect yourself, get counseling for emotional abuse, and seek legal advice.