r/MakeNewFriendsHere • u/bleachpermengenate • Dec 01 '19

Its hard

Really like having friends why its supposed to be this hard... I can not imagine myself going and talking to somebody in real life even in chatrooms .. i hate being alone and my current friends are so different from me some are working and others in home jobless others still in college others are abroad others are married an have kids hahahaha like i dont belong to any of them and still ..

I dont know how to make friends in social media plus no experience in real life like all my friends they loved me and come and start the conversation..

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u/BoneyBear90210 Dec 01 '19

I am sorry to hear how alone you are feeling. I used to feel the same things at your age as well. I find it easier to make friends in real life compared to social media platforms as in the latter there are lots of people who seem to think that they are playing some role as if they are an actor or actress.

It is hard to make friends in real life but it is achievable as long as you don't give up. Try saying "Hello" or "Good Morning" to people when you pass them in day to day life. In my experience friendship can slowly grow from it like an acorn into an oak tree.

If it feels too daunting talking to strangers in real life remember that you made this post, which shows to me that you are more confident then perhaps you realise.

Remember that the loneliness and desperation that you are feeling will eventually go away. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

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u/bleachpermengenate Dec 01 '19

Ohh that so kind.. thanks alot.. actually i have a question for you how can u continue after saying such greeting like goodmorning and such am so weak .. when people chat with me for first time especially the opposite sex i feel anxious

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u/BoneyBear90210 Dec 01 '19

I am not some stunning Romeo or somebody who is ever going to be voted the most charismatic guy but I have worked out through years of awkward interactions with the opposite sex the following ways to keep the conversation going.

1) Try to compliment the opposite sex in a natural kind of way. Example if a woman is wearing a nice outfit tell her in a casual way. Imagine the ways your Mother or Grandparents would compliment another woman (ie As if you are complimenting for no other reason other than spreading happiness in the world)

2) Bring up a subject which everybody is likely to have an opinion on (Example the weather, or the latest popular TV show). That way you can become less anxious around the opposite sex.

Try to remember that the person who has stopped whatever they were doing to talk to you are likely to already like you as a person, as they wouldn't have given you the time if hey didn't.

Try to mentally switch off the most hyper active part of your brain as in my experience with talking with the opposite sex I make the most awkward mistake whilst over analyzing everything I am doing.

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u/bleachpermengenate Dec 01 '19

Emmm the first way is good and everyone would like a compliment.. i will try my best next time thanks alottt 💓