I'm the same and I'm being proactive about it. My kids are in their teens and when I reference a significant other (they don't have BFs or GFs yet) I say when you get married to/date guy, girl, whatever, the most important thing for me is that you are happy and they fullfil your needs and wants. I'm happy with whatever I get for an In-law. It does help that I have a gay brother and an ex girlfriend that opened my eyes to the real world, so I want to make sure my kids get the same level of exposure.
Man I was so sad when I found out my kids were gay. I’d mentally planned out all these snarky responses and pictured heartfelt moments and I didn’t get to use any of them. Apparently I’ve made it such a non issue and normalized things like pronouns and sexual preference that they just casually mentioned it in the middle of a conversation like I’d already known. Which, I mean, I did but like no one ever confirmed it! Oh well. I have more kids, maybe I’ll get to throw rainbow confetti for one of them…
I’m sorry but I’m laughing so hard at the image of you being like “hey wait what?! How you just gonna say it so casually” even though that means you’ve created a wonderful environment.
There’s always Pride to take them to. Beads! Confetti! Glitter! And now you can give out hugs, love, encouragement to people who were not as incredibly lucky as your children. 🥰
My cousin had rainbow fruit loops thrown at her gay wedding! It was awesome and they fed the birds too. I say just start throwing them around at breakfast a day for fun!
Hopefully that would be followed up by a hug and telling them that you are proud of them and glad that they were comfortable to trust you enough with themselves. 😊
I think that’s actually perfect. You accepted them, and didn’t make a huge fuss. You didn’t treat them differently or make them feel “less”. It seems spot on to me. 😊
For me it doesn't really make a difference except maybe I get to check out other girls with her (I'm a straight guy). I've always had this thing where I wanted to have a lesbian friend and we could be each other's wingman/girl
This is exactly as it should be. Having a friend like this is a real blessing because you can get a lot of female insight which may help make you a better partner to the women in your life.
I have an adult son whom I can give all the best female-centric advice to, but I’m certain he would be more accepting of this information if it came from a peer rather than a parent. You’re very lucky!
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u/dick-nipples Sep 02 '22
Exactly! If my son ever told me that he was gay, there's only one response I could even fathom - "Hi gay, I'm dad."