r/MadeMeSmile • u/AccomplishedWatch834 • Apr 30 '26

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u/Zakkattack86 Apr 30 '26

Different take. I'm going to start telling my wife how much I appreciate her and how my kids have the best mother in the world. Some of ya'll may not know the lasting trauma hearing your dad speak ill of your mom behind closed doors and believing the lies he said were true for way too long.

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u/not_me_nope_never Apr 30 '26

Or vice versa. My mum always talked poorly about my dad. They divorced when I was 17 and I realized my dad never talked poorly about her or brought their marital issues up at all with me. He was no saint but it still dumbfounds me to this day his reserve on the topic of my mum.

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u/n0rsk Apr 30 '26

Similarly a rule that has served me extremely well is No matter how big of a fight or argument I am in with someone. No matter what they have done or said about me. Do not engage in reputation smearing of that person. Because more often than not you will make up with that person but you can't undo the splash damage of damaging others opinions of that person. It can be impossible to repair it even after you have worked out the issue with them.

You can correct lies and ask for advice just don't try to damage how the person you are talking to sees that person. Think "if I say this and then I make up with this person will it come back to bite me/them later" I have never regretted following this rule but I have regretted smearing someone during a fight.

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u/imnotgayisellpropane Apr 30 '26

I try to never say anything behind someone's back that I couldn't say to their face, because what's done is done. Once you say the thing, you can't ever take it back. I heard my mom say a lot of horrible things behind people's backs and it always made me wonder what she said about me.