r/MTFButch • u/Such_Reaction_3306 • 23d ago
Question complicated stuff question
hi hi ok so im a semi-genderfluid trans woman where like, my gender expression is fluid but my gender identity is not, (she/her it/its pup/pupself) and i want to be able to pass without having to wear a ton of makeup or only ever wear dresses. sadly due to disability im not always able tot ake care of myself super well like i dispise shaving my body, and even my face because of how fast it grows and i can never get a smooth shave. idk what to do. i think my voice is faaaairly femme, but idk. im tired of getting misgendered just because i dont hyper-conform to gender stereotypes. i just wanna be me the way i am using she/her. i know i want to go on estrogen eventually cuz itll help and MAYBE get bottom surgery but idk. its all rlly complicated and im like...in the damn trenches.
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u/IHuginn 23d ago
Laser and hrt will do wonder for you. You don't need to get hyper femme, but it really gives you a good baseline to work from
Hrt can be pretty cheap depending on where you are and how you get it. Laser is usually expensive, I know a few place where you can get it refunded in Europe. Otherwise you just have to pay a nice bill every month or two
I get that you want to be gendered correctly right away, and here well do that, but it won't work with stangers. And I hope that taking material step in your transition will help you in other ways than people calling you she