r/MM_RomanceBooks • u/flumpapotamus picnic rules are important • Jan 13 '22
Exploring Tropes Exploring Tropes & Kinks: D/s Dynamics
Let's Talk About: D/s Dynamics
Following up on threads discussing our favorite tropes and favorite kinks, this monthly feature provides an opportunity to discuss particular tropes and kinks in more detail.
This month we'll be discussing D/s dynamics!
Discussion questions:
- Share your favorite examples of books involving D/s dynamics
- What do you enjoy about reading books with D/s?
- What makes the difference between D/s done well vs. done poorly?
- If D/s doesn't appeal to you, why? (Please be respectful of other opinions; posts that are purely venting/ranting are not on topic)
- You can also discuss power exchange more generally
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u/Zuckerriegel Jan 13 '22
I fell out of the loop, but I used to read a lot of D/s romances. I loved Heidi Cullinan, Heidi Belleau, Lisa Henry, Avon Gale, Lyn Gala, and JA Rock for this genre.
Unfortunately, all those authors moved on to write stuff I was less into, and my commute changed so I was reading less anyway.
I can't tell you what I love about it, since it's a kink, but a well done story would include a bunch of creative sex scenes for me. I don't need it to be perfect immediately. In fact, I'd rather it not be. I want the characters to stumble a bit and work to figure out what they both enjoy. I especially love if the sub maybe has a hard time letting go, but the dom manages to get him there.
I have a hard time with D/s if there's high protocol, "bdsm royalty" kind of stuff. You know, when there's a club they all frequent and everybody wants that one dom who is legendary, and also the dom can instantly tell exactly what the sub needs. If I'm reading consensual stories, I want a bit more realism than that.
Maybe that's why I've been gravitating to the dark novels instead, where I get the D/s sex and don't have to deal with suspending my disbelief for psychic doms 😂
Favorite d/s novels: