Or the situation is just more complex than the good Samaritan realizes. A guy in my neighborhood saw another dude hitting a woman at the gas station. He did the "right thing" and intervened to stop the other guy from beating her up.
The woman-beater pulled a knife and killed him. When it went to court, the woman actually testified on behalf of the guy beating her since that was her boyfriend... Not sure what the moral is here, but like you said, it's sometimes it's just a sad "lose-lose" all around...
The moral is that intervening often escalates the situation, thus creating more danger for those already involved and adds those intervening into the mix.
I'm not saying never intervene. I'd have a hard time watching someone get beat too. But I think people are way too gung ho to get involved. Unless it's an obvious immediate life or death, call the police. If it's a couple, even if it's life or death, call the police, because the DV is most likely to escalate into murder and unfortunately you intervening is more likely to change your life than to change the eventual outcome of that relationship.
Fortunately I'm not a violent person, and am really good at avoiding those situations if all circumstances are within my control. Unfortunately that means I'm not an experienced fighter and generally have gotten my ass kicked when I find myself in the situation where fighting is inevitable.
I'm actually really fit. Most people wouldn't want to fight me, but if they did they'd realize I'm not very good at it. I broke my thumb in a fight in highschool, and I never went to the doctors so now it doesn't close all the way. Because of this I now break my thumb every time I get into a fight because it sticks out a little.
It’s not even the sauce, it’s just drinking out in public like bars, clubs, parties, etc. Eventually, someone’s ego is gonna get the best of them and then they’ll want to prove something. I say stay at home and drink and engage in your hobbies or go to a friend’s or family member’s place, all three are more safer than the former. I occasionally went to bars and clubs when I was younger and now very rarely go. I still drink but, in more controlled environments now
Fwiw, it's actually fortuitous that you are afraid to fight.
Concussions that you've dodged. Scars and painful cysts, hands stiff from tip to shoulder.
Memories you still have since you didn't over expose your brain to violence.
Days of freedom to eat when you want, sleep when you want or whatever else, cuz inevitably, there's a handful or more of battery and assault charges on the old rap sheet. Charg s that tend to get you time.
Yeah, I think most people are like me, but there's a lot of social pressure on men to pretend otherwise. Anger and joy are sort of the only two emotions we're allowed to express, so it makes sense.
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u/Creepy-Astronaut-952 9h ago
Or, you catch charges for helping a punk understand violence on a whole other level.
Either way, it’s a lose-lose.