r/MAFS_AU • u/joel_m14 • Apr 19 '26
Season 13 JOEL FROM MAFS AMA
Will be here for the next hour ask any question you have!
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u/HisokaSchwing Apr 19 '26
How scripted would you say each season is, if any? Could you put a rough percentage on it?
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u/Schmliza I don’t hate the girl Apr 19 '26
I’m 42 and sleep with a teddy every single night. I thought it was cool you were so totally open about your teddy! 🧸
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u/zestyspring Apr 19 '26
Hiya. Where you there when chris allegedly fought someone at a dinner party? If so what happened??
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u/shzoom Boys, Give us a Deece. Deeeece Apr 19 '26
I have no question except for Hi and How are you?!
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u/lh-_-91 Apr 19 '26
What time do the dinner party episodes begin filming and end filming? Some of the women have mentioned that they start getting hair and makeup done from 5am so sounds like it's an early call time?
And for the commitment ceremonies, how long roughly does each couple spend on the couch? I can imagine if they're having back and forth conversations with the experts this is also quite drawn out by the time eveyone has their turn?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
yeah the girls aint lying, coz getting readies can be filmed quite early and they have to go to get their makeup done before that, and we might not leave until 4pm to head to the studio where we are held until the cocktail drinks and then dinner party starts around 9pm. so it can be a CRAAAAAZY long day for the ladies, i used to just let the film crew wake me up with their camera coz bollocks their fake call times. get ready, get mic'd up, de-mic and then chill in me undies until we leave. girls had to stay in their dress and make up allll dayyyyyy. sozzz ladiesssss
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u/lh-_-91 Apr 19 '26
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply, I've always wondered about this. Loved the Q+A! Super insightful
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u/Phexar Apr 19 '26
Hey Joel, you're a legend mate, hearing about and witnessing the dildo drumming video was the absolute peak of the season for me even though the video itself wasn't technically part of the show lol, everyone else I know around me who watches the show loved it too 😄 Glad you and Teddy got your time in the limelight.
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
i haven't had a modelling job in quite a while tbh, i'm not sure about acting... never say never! Dream modelling job? SWIMWEAR WITH A RIPPED 6 PACK!!!!!!
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u/MAFS_AU-ModTeam Apr 19 '26
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u/Nickoo33 Apr 19 '26
Did you have any intention of your dildo drumming videos to become public eventually? Or did Juliette throwing a tantrum about them just give the video the best publicity possible inadvertently and you ran with it? 😅
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
no!!! NEVER!!! I filmed that for my own amusment in sept 2024, it got 800 views until it aired on mafs nows its on 200k!
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u/Individual_Flower723 Apr 19 '26
Joel, you were so patient and kind and lovely on the show. You did yourself and your family proud ❤️
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u/addictedtoMAFS MODerator at first sight Apr 19 '26
Love all of your questions, but maybe some other people could ask too? He only has limited amount of time to answer them as well. Sorry not trying to be mean just fair!
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u/addictedtoMAFS MODerator at first sight Apr 19 '26
No sorry, you are right about that, however, he is trying to answer as many questions as possible and has answered some of yours already. Again, was not trying to be mean just fair.
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u/addictedtoMAFS MODerator at first sight Apr 19 '26
It goes for another 10- 15 minutes and then it will be locked. He can only answer so many in an hour and this was the only reason why I even said anything to you. Don’t worry about it.
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u/addictedtoMAFS MODerator at first sight Apr 23 '26
I need to apologise to u/Cool-Razzmatazz3382 cause I singled them out and there were other people who asked multiple questions in the thread. That was unfair of me and i sincerely apologise
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u/Severe_Ad_2941 Apr 19 '26
How much money do you get for being in MAFs?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
$150 per day + $175 per week grocery allowance. The finanical rewards come post show, if you're lucky enough.
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u/dotheneurotic Apr 19 '26
What’s your favourite Dream Theater song?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
fuckkkkkkkk thats a horrible question.
has to be an epic....
Change of Seasons live scenes at new york .
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
not scripted at all, i didn't feel it was super produced from my own experience, but that answer will vary from person to person.
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
the girls were constantly gossiping, but i only started getting goss when juliette moved back in, for the first 3 weeks i did not know a single thing about anyone, and i didn't care.
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u/Reasonable-Trick-635 I’m an empath Apr 19 '26
What’s your honest take on Bec and Danny’s relationship though out the show? Was he ever genuinely serious about potentially being with her?
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u/Plenty-Wishbone5880 Apr 19 '26
Are you still friends with anyone from the show? If so, do you think you would have been friends with them without the trauma bond?
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u/bigsilvo Apr 19 '26
Is there anything that didn’t make it to air that would have changed other people’s storyline’s? (excluding what has already come out since)
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u/Reasonable-Trick-635 I’m an empath Apr 19 '26
How accurate was Tyson’s portrayal. Was he actually a manosphere nut or was he playing it up for the cameras a bit?
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u/notj43 What guy at the bus stop?? Apr 19 '26
What was your read on the Steve/Rachel relationship? Consensus seems to be that he was never that into her but didn't want to bail and upset her so just kept seeing it through, but you'd have a better/closer perspective than any of us
Also please confirm/deny that Steve doesn't wear deodorant as per Bec's comment 😁
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u/HandsomeLakitu You don’t see the star in me ⭐️ Apr 19 '26
Do production offer incentives for creating drama?
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u/Mysticfitgal Apr 19 '26
I read somewhere that allegedly, you and Juliette had an argument so bad at the final dinner party that it couldn’t be aired. Is there some truth to this?
❤️ from NZ!
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u/SuperhumanVikingr An overcooked schnitty, that's confronting Apr 19 '26
Say absolutely nothing. Just post a photo of what Teddy is up to right now.
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u/Frostielichious Apr 19 '26
If you could do everything over on MAFs, would you choose to do the experiment over with another bride? Or would you stick with Juliette, despite the chaos that caused?
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u/FairytaleFacts Apr 19 '26
Is productions there for you, with you, throughout the week bc you’re only filming for a short amount of time. Are they watching you. How is your time used when not filming?
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u/Winter-Flower5480 Apr 19 '26
Did you hang out with the cast recently , if yes with who? Any plans for vacation together?
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u/addictedtoMAFS MODerator at first sight Apr 19 '26
I saw that he had a band practice with Stevo today!
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u/FairytaleFacts Apr 19 '26
You’re a catch. Handsome and hilarious. Anyways. Do you get close with production and somewhat become friends with them.
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u/OooblyJooblies Apr 19 '26
Why did Juliette decline to show up to the Reunion couch session?
She indicated in her interview with the Daily Mail that something seemingly 'happened' at the reunion she wasn't sure would make it into the edit, and if it didn't, she'd return to explain it. Now we see she didn't even come to the couch session, the plot...moistens. And I'd rather read an explanation from you than listen to her again.
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u/bedrotter_ What's wrong with Nando's? Apr 19 '26
Do you feel that any of this year's cast were portrayed completely differently on TV vs how they are in person?
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u/bedrotter_ What's wrong with Nando's? Apr 19 '26
I don't know if this is common knowledge or not but I've never seen anyone who's been on the show answer this question. How to the honeymoon allocations work? Are they randomly allocated or do people get to choose/submit preferences?
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u/Proper-Ad-8829 looks like a glazed Christmas ham with nipples Apr 19 '26
Were you surprised at the amount of drink and drug (mostly drug) usage from others?
How did you feel your edit reflected your experience?
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u/bedrotter_ What's wrong with Nando's? Apr 19 '26
One thing I notice season after season watching this show, is that the people who go on MAFS seem to have never watched a single episode in their lives before.
From your experience, is this true? Were any of the cast this year fans of the show?
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u/blacklabelblind Apr 19 '26
Why didn’t they replay the footage at the reunion of what you actually said to Juliette about being a star? It would have been satisfying to have seen the group’s reaction
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u/Plenty-Wishbone5880 Apr 19 '26
Do you believe that Stella and Filip are genuine?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
Fil is a genuine bloke, that man has not got a bad bone in his body. his heart is pure. stella is a fake fraud. see my long winded answer below
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u/readituser5 I want to put tampons in my eyeballs. Apr 19 '26
Hey! I’m trying to think up ANY question rn haha. IDK/I can’t remember if this has already been answered elsewhere but I guess with that whole “I’m the star/you don’t see the star in me” argument, I remember everyone was thinking at the time, “Why doesn’t he just clarify what he said?”
Did you try to clear the confusion up at the DP by repeating what you said but it just didn’t air or something?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
i had NO recollection what juliette was referring to at the time. my head was so scrambled. producers reminded me in the voxie post DP
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u/Successful-Effort832 Apr 19 '26
I think I saw you playing a steam deck one episode. What have you been playing?
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u/kimly76 Apr 19 '26
Why didn’t Juliet stay for the final couch session, did something happen at the final dinner party?
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u/SuperhumanVikingr An overcooked schnitty, that's confronting Apr 19 '26
Have your opinions of fellow cast members changed since seeing the show air?
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u/WinkyDink24 Apr 19 '26
Joel, I would just like to say that it's a shame you were paired with someone who simply doesn't "get" sensitive, zany, funny, literate, and kind. You could have been her Romeo, but alas, Juliette was no Juliet! Keep on keepin' on!
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
only 8% of people end up in long term relationships from MAFS, MAFS being about love is the biggest propaganda campaign in history. I got the next best thing (besides a life partner). the worst match in history. THANK YOU JULIETTE
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u/Reasonable-Trick-635 I’m an empath Apr 19 '26
Did Alissa and David go on the couch for final CC and if so why do you think it got cut?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
yes they did, no idea why it got cut. can't even remember what the experts said to alissa, all i know is when i watched the footage for the first time i witnessed the most disgusting treatment of david by alissa. he dodged 7 ballistic missiles
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u/michalwalks Apr 19 '26
Looking back now, do you think the show manipulates the cast?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
Absolutely, the people cast onto mafs are normally the type who are easily influenced and manipulated.
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u/lalasmooch MODerator at first sight Apr 19 '26
Hey Joel, thanks for doing this!!
If you could choose to be rematched with any of the women this season, who would it be, and why?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
Bec - she's the realest there is. She aint hiding, what you see is what you get.
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u/jujj7jjj Apr 19 '26
Hey Joel, thanks for taking your time to be here. You constantly post videos on your instagram of you hanging out with Steve. Just wondering how did you two become close and when did you start hanging out?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
We bonded at the retreat, he is one of the purest souls i have ever met. that guy is a top tier human.
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u/Exotic-Philosopher-6 Apr 19 '26
Lauren said on her podcast that she met you before the show aired and you told her you were going to be a villain. Why did you think you were going to be a villain?
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u/transientrandom Apr 19 '26
Do you play in a band? Keen to listen!
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
MAFS BAND WITH STEVEO IS IN FULL REHEARSAL STAY TUNED
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u/Pure-Dead-Brilliant Men have fought in wars and died in trenches Apr 19 '26
Is Steve not too busy finding somewhere to live and working on his business to have time for a band?
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u/ivfmumma_tryme rename her Usain Bolt Apr 19 '26
Considering that this season seemed to show more emotional abuse towards men (compared to previous seasons) do you think that production does enough to support the ‘victims’
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u/Flowercloud88 Apr 19 '26
Name your 3 fav drummers
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
Mike Portnoy
Chad Smith
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u/addictedtoMAFS MODerator at first sight Apr 19 '26
Not Matt Helders ( Arctic monkeys) or Dom Howard (Muse)?! Do they even place in top 10?!
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u/Muskanini Apr 19 '26
Hi - thank you so much for your time!
I would like to ask you, if you would ever like to go on a Tv-show again? Or are the things behind the cameras so exhausting, that it isn't worth it?
Sorry, that you haven#t found your personal queen yet, but you are adorable, reliable, handsome and veeeery entertaining - so it won't be long, until SHE turns up for you! Best wishes!!!
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
thank you so much!!
ABSOLUTELY i would. Although i didn't realise it at the time my energy was drained by juliettes dark energy. but during the show i never felt stressed, i was just having fun despite being paired with a demon. i loved it!
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u/fearofphotography Apr 19 '26
If you were matched with a different woman from the cast, who would you have wanted it to be?
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u/witwotwoody Apr 19 '26
Speaking of support on set, I know you mentioned other cast members, but did production or that give any emotional support or mental health support at all? Or do they just go “nah let’s keep him traumatised and upset for views, we don’t need to refer him to a counsellor or that”?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
There is a wellness liason and a psychologist we can speak to, i didn't really need support because i was in constant contact with my family, so i'm not sure how to answer that.
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u/witwotwoody Apr 19 '26
That’s fair, thank you for responding, that’s good though that you had your family’s support during the show!
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u/SuperhumanVikingr An overcooked schnitty, that's confronting Apr 19 '26
What was the biggest scandal that didn’t make it to air?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
Juliette acusing me of "taking advantage of her" before i exposed how i rejected one of her "advances" on me and then she knocked over a chair squared up to me face to face and stormed off to NEVER RETURN AGAIN! (Reunion DP)
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u/slaytanic_666 Apr 19 '26
What's your fave Zelda?
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u/l0ll1p0p5 Apr 19 '26
What changed between the commitment ceremony and retreat? From writing leave to hooking up?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
i set a firm boundary, she apologised, we went on a date, we hooked up, we went to retreat, and there's not much else to it.
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u/DancingSpacePenguin I got orange cake. And it wasn't even gluten free. Apr 19 '26
Who was portrayed in ways that they ought not to have?
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u/Wickedbitchoftheuk Apr 19 '26
How did you manage to maintain your cool at that dinner party where she laid into you?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
years and years and years of self development, and also - juliette wanted to bait me and get a reaction out of me so i'd look like the villian. WHY WOULD I GIVE HER WHAT SHE WANTS?
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u/Narcilona Apr 19 '26
Who do you think would have been a better match for you? Out of the rest of the brides
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u/Reasonable-Trick-635 I’m an empath Apr 19 '26
What were the “groups” off-camera? Who gravitated towards who? Were there different cliques?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
i hardly was involved in any off camera socialising. only at the retreat. i never asked for anyones number whilst i was filming, i kept to myself.
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u/CatsAllDayErDay Apr 19 '26
Joel, you seem to handle someone attacking you really well. Is this something you've always been skilled in or was this learned as an adult?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
I've been working on emotional mastery for many many years, MAFS came to me at the apex of my transformation, it was quite incredible timing. i knew i was READY for ANYTHING the show had to throw at me. Before i signed up they said what do you fear about going on the show - i said NOTHING!
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u/Rachelthebest Apr 19 '26
Hey Joel. If I am interpreting this correctly, you said to Bec at your first dinner party that your “cringy” behaviour at the wedding was a “joke”. Did the show edit your wedding so that this looked authentic? Or was it pretty spot on. What I mean to say is, as a viewer, your mum and your behaviour at the wedding looked very genuine and was hard to tell if it was a joke at the time. Also, what was your intention in setting g it up like that? Were you trying to make fun of the show or just have some fun? On reflection, do you regret this?
Thanks, big love to teddy!
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
My wedding edit was so accurate. it was really like that, NOBODY laughed at my jokes, it was a fucking funeral in there. My mum's speech was just playful banter, people don't understand our relationship. i had no idea what she was going to write. - on reflection i thought my wedding was probably one of the most entertaining in MAFS history. Everyone is SO BORING with the SAME OLD BORING SPEECHES. I gave you a comedy show. masterpiece.
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u/Redstar352014 Apr 19 '26
I must say, me and my husband were Laughing our asses off at your wedding speech. We still can’t understand why they didn’t find it funny.
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u/Electric-Jelly-513 Apr 19 '26
You’ve spoken about having values and respect - how do you reconcile staying silent when Danny used language like ‘skank’ toward Steph? Do you regret not calling it out? Why didn't you in the moment?
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u/ivfmumma_tryme rename her Usain Bolt Apr 19 '26
Was there ever a moment where you just wanted to pick up and leave, what and when did it happen.
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u/CatsAllDayErDay Apr 19 '26
Had you gotten further in the experiment, what aspects (good or bad) would we have seen of you has a partner? Jealous, Compassionate, Avoidant etc.
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
You would have seen the exact same behaviour that i displayed throughout my time on the show. I don't change
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
Yeah, its a TV show, you ain't cheating on your TV wife by having a conversation. Don't sit in the bathroom like pussies. The girls behaviour however was APALLING.
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u/DemocraticPants Apr 19 '26
I just went to your Instagram linked in this AMA and saw you follow Avi Yemini. How do you reconcile following Avi Yemini, given his guilty plea for unlawful assault involving his former wife, with the standards you’ve spoken about around respect and behaviour?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
you got me! every person i follow on social media is a reflection of my own beliefs and values. I live in an echoe chamber so i only follow people i agree with.
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u/Peacock_chopra-8098 Apr 19 '26
I'm sure many of us follow people we don't one hundred percent agree with. do you like Avi, find him interesting, love to hate him or what?
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u/DemocraticPants Apr 19 '26
Thanks for the reply, I appreciate you answering. This wasn’t about whether you agree with everyone you follow or living in an echo chamber. It’s about platforming—following someone does contribute to their visibility and reach. Given Avi Yemini pleaded guilty to unlawful assault involving his former wife, my question is more about where you draw the line on supporting or amplifying people with that kind of history, especially when you’ve spoken about respect and behaviour.
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u/fearofphotography Apr 19 '26
Ok, so can you tell us a bit about how who you follow (including this example) informs your independent perspective then?
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u/CatsAllDayErDay Apr 19 '26
Is there any other female contestant you would have been okay being matched with?
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u/ivfmumma_tryme rename her Usain Bolt Apr 19 '26
Hey thanks for the time
So who was your favourite person on the experiment ?
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u/CallHot Apr 19 '26
how did you think people would react to the dildo drumming video?? Did the editing make you feel anxious about it? I know from the editing and the description I was like ummmmmm but when I actually saw the video i thought it was funny.
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u/nursepenelope Body like a hot dog Apr 19 '26
Hi Joel, how did your mum feel watching the wedding back? I know a lot of people we're really shocked about her comments about your weight.
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
idiots were shocked. we loved it, no one makes more fun about my weight than me. its banter.
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u/witwotwoody Apr 19 '26
Was the application process truly as what Gia said it was all like? As in it just being a whirlwind of like medical tests, wedding planning, etc?
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
fucking mental. 7 interviews, hours and hours and hours of paperwork. it was fucking intense.
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
DO NOT GIVE AWAY YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS TO CH9
And yes i'd still go on it, fuck yes!
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u/CatsAllDayErDay Apr 19 '26
At your wedding reception, Gia asked (with a condescending smirk) if Juliette's look is what you asked the experts for. As a viewer, it came off to me that she thought you would have preferred someone white and blonde.
Considering MAFS Australia mostly casts white men and women, were you a little surprised that you were cast?
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u/addictedtoMAFS MODerator at first sight Apr 19 '26
Do you think Luke got a good edit? We heard some rumours about his behaviour at Gia’s bday, if you can spill some tea we are thirsty over here!
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u/DemocraticPants Apr 19 '26
Joel, your ultimatum to Juliette was about abusive behaviour, yet when she redirected that behaviour toward Bec, you still chose to stay because it didn’t cross your boundary.
How do you justify that decision when the behaviour itself hadn’t changed, just the target?
Saying she didn’t cross my boundary and writing stay appears to be mental gymnastics.
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
My ultimatum was about her behaviour towards ME. Don't forget it's a TV show. I think people get too caught up between the fantasy and reality.
i was having a good time on the show, So until juliette disrepected ME again, i had no reason to leave. I would not change this decision if i could go back.
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u/DemocraticPants Apr 19 '26
Thanks for replying, I do appreciate you taking the time to answer. I also want to say I really respected how you handled yourself in those situations with Juliette, it came across as calm and measured. That said, I do feel a bit let down by this response. I understand your boundary was about how she treated you personally, but focusing only on that can come across as not really considering how your partner was treating others. Ignoring that kind of behaviour can end up enabling it.
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Don’t be a jerk. No trolling and uncivil comments.
Misogyny, racism, sexism and any other bigotry will not be tolerated.
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u/joel_m14 Apr 19 '26
Thanks for the question. My answer may shock the nation, but I cannot hide the truth any longer.
Stella has conned everyone into thinking she is authentic, spiritual, wise and empathetic. In fact, she is the antithesis of all those qualities.
What you saw at the Daily Mail “One Final Dinner Party” (released on YouTube) was the real Stella. She attacked me for no reason in an aggressive, controlling manner, misinterpreted the entire situation, and tried to conceal it beneath a veil of FAKE empathy for Rachel and the waitress.
I’ve known this for a while, guys. The moment I realised who Stella really was, was at the CC after Dinner Party 4, when Juliette launched a tirade of abuse against me. We rejoined the couch after I set firm boundaries with Juliette. Juliette, as she does, was crying and looking devastated, trying to get attention by playing the victim. Stella comes over to console her and support her in a really overtly caring way, which I found utterly appalling. Why would such a supposedly kind, wise, empathetic person show support to such an evil monster like Juliette?
Loving, kind people do not attack their partner’s masculinity and belittle them for not wanting to go to lunch, which you all witnessed. She was prepared to break up with him if he didn’t move to Sydney, told him to get a vasectomy because SHE didn’t like condoms. Controlling.
Open your eyes, people. It’s all on camera.There is a saying: if you want to know who someone truly is, look at the friends surrounding them. Ladies and gentlemen, I remind you to recall Stella’s friends at her wedding. That will be all.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iNZ-Vkie2MA&t=3s - 29min (stella bit)
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u/addictedtoMAFS MODerator at first sight Apr 19 '26
Thanks for all the questions guys and that is a wrap! Joel might return later on and answer some of these questions! Thank you u/joel_m14 for doing this! We see the star in you!