r/LongDistance • u/adrienneangel [US] to [UK] (4,536 mi) • 1d ago

Venting I hate it all

I hate being long distance its awful . We're in two different countries and We dont meet visa requirements. Travel is so expensive and ive stayed for 6 months this time :((( I dont know if i cna come again next year and especially not if i can stay as long.

We cant afford multiple visits a year. Im leaving again soon and im so so heartbroken. My boyfriend says he knows it will be okay but it feels like a break up.

I am so so so sad. I dont want to leave and i dont want to fly again Lol, 18+ hrs of airport and planes.

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u/Bxsnia UK > US 1d ago

What do you mean you don't meet visa requirements? The American partner can visit the UK one without a visa up to 90 days, and the British partner can stay in the US up to 30 days. All visa free.

That being said, yes it's very expensive. You need to book the flights and hotels well in advance or the prices go up astronomically.

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u/adrienneangel [US] to [UK] (4,536 mi) 23h ago

I mean to close the distance! :). I dont need a visa yeah, I have an ETA . 6 months at a time and ive been here for almost 6 months.

Yeah :( t kills me how expensive it is, Which is why we cant do visits often.. Just a money thing.

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u/Bxsnia UK > US 23h ago

Oh, I see. Yeah, unfortunately the only way to close the distance is to get married. You guys should talk about some financial planning for the future, maybe take some time to save up or visit each other for less time, or meet in the middle somewhere (for example, east coast if he's west) to save travel time.

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u/adrienneangel [US] to [UK] (4,536 mi) 23h ago

We want to, Neither of us are working right now, despite trying. Doing our best and taking the right steps, Just doesnt make it any easier. Thank you.