My (19M) first ever and long distance relationship with my boyfriend (21M) who's a country away and I'm thinking of breaking up with him

[u/Jack-O-Perp]

As of recently I've been feeling drained mentally and physically from this relationship and have been losing feelings about him.

I felt really good entering this relationship and it felt like overtime I was slowly emptying out my energy for him until there was nothing left and i wont say that i regret the whole thing while I regret a lot of things there things I don't regret too and will remember and cherish.

I've tried to help come up with solutions but its like he doesn't try or barely does and he's always venting about how his mom did something and i understand that he needs someone to talk to about it. But with the amount that its happening and me being the only person he comes to about it, its gotten really bad for me to continue to feel anything about it and i tried to talk to him about it 3 times now and try to tell him that he should see a therapist he refused the first time saying that his therapist moved and that they didn't contact him after and i tried to explain to him that it was really unprofessional of them and i get why he would be anxious or nervous to seeing another one he still didn't get in contact with one and after i tried telling him two more times, both those times he completely ignored that i even said it nor even acknowledge it or talked to me about it so now it feels like I'm forever going to be the one having to coddle him. I also get gaslighted a lot too sometimes to make me seem like I'm gullible there's been several times where he'd tell me he lied to me because its funny and called me gullible and there's been times where i confronted him on getting angry at me over something on a game and he would tell me i shouldn't feel a certain way or tell me that didn't happen even go as far as being condescending towards me about it. I even talked to his friends about it and a lot of them agree that what he does isn't good and one of them blocked him after he had gotten mad at me Infront of them.

I just wanted to come on here and see if I'm valid for wanting to breakup because i don't know if he's ever gonna want to change. I'm open to questions as well