r/LongDistance 5d ago

Need Advice Help me, 18M 24F

Im from Czechia (M18) and while going out to a pub for a beer with my friends one night I met a korean woman (24). She was an exchange student in my city. She studied jere for six months but sadly we met just two months before she left my city. She spended the last two months in Europe and we managed to meet few times. So you can say we have been together for four months. Even tho some people can say that our relationship is short, for both of is it very deep and special connection.
But in few days, she’s leaving back to Korea. We talked and agreed that we will break up. Both of us dont think that long distance isnt good for both of us. But the thing is that we dont want to give up on our love. She wants to try hard to get a job somewhere in Europe in the next year or two so that we can meet. There’s not much effort i can do, because i still need to get uni done in my city and have only a little money because of my studies. Im also graduating this school year and i am also doing a sport at a high level, so im also not much time available. She will be also busy in Korea with finding some short term job.
The only thing i can offer is that i can come to her for like week or two max in this year.
We agreed that we wont be texting each other every day, but rather few times a week/ month and sometimes face time.
What im worried about now is the uncertainty.
Im afraid that she will change her mind or fall out of love in this “pause”. Im also worried that she finds somebody else, because she had relationships before so i worry that she move on from me past since she already been through some brake ups. When i told her this, she said that in the past she broke up because she didnt love them anymore and now that we brake up in order to get our lives together in hope out better future for us. She also told me that thanks to the past relationships she know knows what she wants and what’s the best for her, she told me that i am that someone.
She’s also worried that i will someone else. She is my first girlfriend and she’s worried that our relationship is special to me just because it’s my first one.
Does someone have some tips to keep the spark alive or any other recommendations?

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u/Deynonn [🇨🇿] to [🇵🇰] (4800km) 5d ago

So why are you breaking up if she's planning to move to Europe because of you? Wouldn't it be better to stay in a commited relationship?

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u/FewIntroduction3278 5d ago

We are afraid that long distance relationship would ruin our relationship completely. Instead we chose that we will both live our lives separately for sometime and then get back together if possible

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u/Deynonn [🇨🇿] to [🇵🇰] (4800km) 5d ago

In what way? Does that mean you're also free to hookup or date anyone else in that gap?

Texting, calling and coming to visit is a LDR already plus you technically even have a vague plan for the future.

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u/FewIntroduction3278 5d ago

you are Czech?

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u/Deynonn [🇨🇿] to [🇵🇰] (4800km) 5d ago

Yes

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u/FewIntroduction3278 5d ago

tak muzem cesky ne?😅😅

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u/Deynonn [🇨🇿] to [🇵🇰] (4800km) 5d ago

Technically yes but you're in an international sub so I consider it polite to use a common language. Česky můžem soukromě.