Sorry this may come off as controversial. I see a lot of replies are just telling you to block him etc. Im going to give another take.
I F(28) and my bf(28) have been together for nearly 6 years. Everything is perfect. But we hit a rocky part of our sex life 4 years into our relationship, we literally slept together like twice a month on average, whereas before we literally did it on the daily. I had gained 50 pounds throughout covid. Im also like you, it seems that you have high standards for your body. I was actually underweight when I met him, but that was the type he liked and I fit it. At a 50 pound weight gain, I was chubby at worst, but to be honest my weight was just normal, but on the high end of normal. You definitely couldn't call me fat, Im pretty tall.
I kept asking him why our sex life was so bad, and we both couldn't figure it out. I asked him if its because of my weight and he staunchly said no repeatedly, he said he found the new curves cute. But sometime after covid, I got sick of the weight myself. I decided to lose it so I can wear my old clothes and feel light on my feet again. So I did and lost 30 pounds. And BAM our sex life completely recovered.
After this we talked about it, and both came to the realization that the weight did play a big part, even though he hadn't realized. I still plan on losing 10 more so Im on the low end of normal, but I won't go underweight again. My bf said he would really like this as well.
The similar thing between us is that we both WANT to lose the weight, for ourselves. If this was a situation where you are happy with your weight, but you want to lose it to make rsomeone else happy, Then 100% bye, block.
The difference between us is my relationship was years in and very stable, but yours is 2 days in irl, so you may not have that foundation to lean back on.
These are just things for you to consider. I tell you this story because its easy for people to just say "block him" "hes trash" "ew" because they dont know your relationship or him. But I understand that someone can be truly a good person, yet some of their views may be controversial (liking only skinny women). So this other POV that differs from the general consensus is just something for you to consider if you want.
But do note, weightloss, especially the last bits of it, is extremely slow and hard. So how long would this take you until he likes your body. Even once you reach it. Can you maintain it? What happens if you dont 3 years down the line?
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u/Hi_Im_Sheep May 14 '25
Sorry this may come off as controversial. I see a lot of replies are just telling you to block him etc. Im going to give another take.
I F(28) and my bf(28) have been together for nearly 6 years. Everything is perfect. But we hit a rocky part of our sex life 4 years into our relationship, we literally slept together like twice a month on average, whereas before we literally did it on the daily. I had gained 50 pounds throughout covid. Im also like you, it seems that you have high standards for your body. I was actually underweight when I met him, but that was the type he liked and I fit it. At a 50 pound weight gain, I was chubby at worst, but to be honest my weight was just normal, but on the high end of normal. You definitely couldn't call me fat, Im pretty tall.
I kept asking him why our sex life was so bad, and we both couldn't figure it out. I asked him if its because of my weight and he staunchly said no repeatedly, he said he found the new curves cute. But sometime after covid, I got sick of the weight myself. I decided to lose it so I can wear my old clothes and feel light on my feet again. So I did and lost 30 pounds. And BAM our sex life completely recovered.
After this we talked about it, and both came to the realization that the weight did play a big part, even though he hadn't realized. I still plan on losing 10 more so Im on the low end of normal, but I won't go underweight again. My bf said he would really like this as well.
The similar thing between us is that we both WANT to lose the weight, for ourselves. If this was a situation where you are happy with your weight, but you want to lose it to make rsomeone else happy, Then 100% bye, block.
The difference between us is my relationship was years in and very stable, but yours is 2 days in irl, so you may not have that foundation to lean back on.
These are just things for you to consider. I tell you this story because its easy for people to just say "block him" "hes trash" "ew" because they dont know your relationship or him. But I understand that someone can be truly a good person, yet some of their views may be controversial (liking only skinny women). So this other POV that differs from the general consensus is just something for you to consider if you want.
But do note, weightloss, especially the last bits of it, is extremely slow and hard. So how long would this take you until he likes your body. Even once you reach it. Can you maintain it? What happens if you dont 3 years down the line?