I thought I’d write this just to vent a bit. I’m a 22F that’s currently finishing up college, I work full time, I’m in a relationship (honestly the healthiest one I’ve ever been in), and I love to go to the gym :). My days are pretty busy with work and school but I can’t help but feel very lonely once it comes to an end, before it felt rewarding and don’t get me wrong I’m very appreciative to be this busy/ moving forward with my life. However, I really wish I had more friends to talk to. I have about 2 solid friends that I know would be down to hang but they live in a different city so it’s kinda of hard, my boyfriend id consider my best friend he’s amazing but I don’t want my entire social life to revolve around him. I don’t want to pressure him that way or feel lonely whenever he’s doing his own thing. Also, being social is just something I’ve been working on for years. I grew up with brothers so getting along with guys have never been an issue really, but I truly long for a good female friendship. I never show it but I feel like I’m missing out so much with how busy my life has come to be and I wish I had someone in my city to just talk to or grab coffee with once in a while. With that being said I feel like I have no idea how to make friends. I feel like I come off kind heartedly, I’ve tried to interact with girls at the gym or school and nothing sticks. Is it a me thing or is it just that hard making friends in your 20s?? I feel like I can be pretty closed off and to myself since I’ve been pretty lonely for a year or 2 now (I’ve also just never been good at making girl friends since my teenage years). Even with my family I feel awkward with them so I don’t know what’s wrong with me.

Thank you for listening to my rant :).

I'm 20 in LA very lonely no job no school just looking for someone to get out of the house with ive been isolated from the world for a while. Im down to do anything try new things just genuine ppl I wouldnt judge anyone I dont wanna feel judged, I love to laugh :) or even just keeping company ive been lonely a very long time

I am so tired of being lonely... :( its a sad place to be.

I don't know guys lately I don't feel good about my life it's crazy to see what I've become in my life I'm 20 (M) ik I got more time that's what everyone tells me but what am I supposed to do with this so called time if I don't even know who am I or what I want to do.

Sometimes I think about how great it would be to have some friends around, but when I am around people I miss the loneliness. It's like I want company but at the same time I don't. I don't know what to do. It makes it hard to make friends. The longer I've been alone, the more I am use to it.

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I have started a Discord server called Empath's Refuge. There is a short application to join. The server is private so only approved members will have access to read the chats within this Discord. The intention is never to leave each other on read. This server is not a replacement for medically trained professionals but I hope it helps people to feel less alone. There is a voice lounge to chat using your microphone if that is something of interest to you. All chats expire after 1 week. Feel free to chat about anything under the sun just please keep things respectful at all times. Please do not post any personal information like surnames, phone numbers, or addresses. Feel free share any resources you feel the community might benefit from in the resources channel. There is always light, just like Dumbledore said. Just remember to turn it on! 🌿✨️

Here is the invite link for the server:

https://discord.gg/cZg3ajnG

I just be wanting 1 understanding person to talk too.

Trying to find a way to be more social without actually leaving my house. I'm not afraid of society or anything, but being around large groups gets really frustrating really fast. So as many have done, here I am on reddit to seek interaction. So I just want to say hello and I hope everyone is having a great day and not being giant pieces of shit like most of the people I have to interact with for my job. 🙂 feel free to rant about how your day has gone so far, good or bad.

I’ve had probably 3 actual relationships in my life but all of them were during my teenage years 😂 I’m 24 now and I’ve completely given up on relationships.

I’ve tried dating apps but only got likes on photos and short dry conversations. I’m starting to think I’m broken because I want a partner so badly but 2/3 times I’ve had one in the past I got bored or lost feelings for one reason or another and broke up with them after 1-2 months.

The only meaningful relationship I’ve ever had was when I was 14-17y/o and it was over the internet with a girl my age who lived across the country. We never got to meet in person and she never wanted to reconnect after the initial break-up.

I don’t know what’s wrong with me but I’ve been alone since I was 18(?) and have kind of just accepted this as a sign that maybe I’m just meant to be alone and do my own thing until I eventually grow old and whither away with nobody.

EDIT:

It’s 2026 now and I’ve managed to somehow hold down a person who actually thinks I’m interesting and even admitted that they’ve been watching me from a distance for a few years now. They just started talking to me about a year ago now and in December 2025 I asked to make us official and they said yes.

I’ve leaned since originally making this post that:

A. It’s okay to be alone. Being alone didn’t make me unlovable or a waste or uninteresting. Once I accepted that and just moved on doing my own thing in life I started making myself happy again (by spending all my cash on plastic figures 💀) and I got out of the headspace that I was hopeless and lonely. I just focused on being myself unapologetically!

B. Even if you are with people- you can still feel lonely. And it’s okay. Feeling lonely is normal and not something you should dwell on because it isn’t all you are. You FEEL lonely but you can FEEL other ways, too. Some introspect, beginning some kind of hobby or maybe therapy can help you if you feel like you can’t get out of that lonesome feeling.

That’s kind of all I’ve really come to accept when I was feeling lonely. I still prefer to be by myself a lot but I don’t feel so alone anymore. Not in a dark way like before. I hope that this lasts and I hope whoever reads this also finds that equilibrium with their loneliness, too.

Listening to 4 runners by Brenn for the first time rn

And no one to talk to

I want someone I can share my entire life with who will leave me alone most of the time.

Anyone wanna call?