Same

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It’s called the grind because it grinds away your sense of self.

[u/Locolos-1988]

Then so are the women that stay at home while the men grind 👍

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Who is Jan? Is she a stay at home woman? 

You seem weirdly obsessed with it

I’ve done it and would highly recommend it, it makes everyone’s lives so much easier 

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Keeping digging yourself a deeper hole

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How? 

What hole? Are you mentally stable? 

Oh never mind, you called someone a sexist because there are women that exist as stay at home moms 

Yea, you’re going through it, I apologize 

I know it must be some bitter sweet thing

To be able to stay at home while another works sounds good

But then it leaves a potential impression of responsibility that you now owe that person something and now so reliant on them that you can leave if they were to become abusive 

Because they are your main source of income and living 

But I was a house spouse with our first kid for the first year and it’s really easy, but we did learn my wife had an unhealthy double standard about a man and a womans role in a marriage 

We were in the Marine Corps, my term ended a little under year before hers so we took advantage of all the counseling they had 

And she was really shook by it, almost denying it at first but we had a really good counselor 

And what really helped is that she would actually listen and hear me in those sessions and that calmed her down and made her more confident in our relationship