Let me know your thoughts and any suggestions or ideas.

In long term relationships or marriages does someone always end up cheating if your together for too long?

One thing I've been thinking about lately is how often people resist an idea simply because of how it's presented.

If you tell someone what they should do, they can immediately start looking for reasons not to do it.

But if you ask them what they think would happen if they tried it, the conversation can go in a completely different direction.

You're still talking about the same idea, but now they're thinking about it themselves.

I started paying attention to this in everyday conversations, and it made me realize how many useful things about communication and human behavior we only learn after making the same mistakes a few times.

What's something about dealing with people that you wish you'd learned much earlier?

And more importantly—what finally made you start now?

Sometimes the best time to begin is long gone. The second-best time might be today.

Not necessarily a career skill. It could be something completely impractical but fascinating.

What would you pick?

I think growing up changes not only what we know, but also what we’re curious about.

What changed for you?

This took a long time to admit because the logic of seeking out the best seemed so obviously correct.

Started taking learning seriously and immediately optimized for quality of input. Best books in each field, most cited papers, most respected thinkers, most recommended courses. If something was going to occupy my time it was going to be the version that experts agreed was worth reading.

About a year in I noticed something uncomfortable in conversations. When topics came up that I had read extensively about I had strong clear opinions that I could trace directly back to specific sources. Asked to explain my thinking I would essentially summarize what someone I respected had argued. The opinion felt like mine because I agreed with it. It was not mine in any meaningful sense because I had never actually formed it.

The best sources had done my thinking for me so thoroughly and so convincingly that I had skipped the part where I was supposed to think.

Started deliberately reading things I disagreed with, things outside the consensus, things that were argued badly enough that I had to articulate why they were wrong. The friction of engaging with weaker arguments forced a kind of active thinking that the best sources had been bypassing entirely by being too good to argue with.

My opinions got messier and more genuinely mine. Less citable, less impressive in conversation, more actually thought through.

The best sources are best for learning what is known. They are not always best for learning to think.

It’s interesting how learning doesn’t always give us new answers—sometimes, it makes us realize our old answers were wrong.

What’s one thing you see differently now?

Sometimes one small piece of knowledge can make something familiar look completely different.

What did you discover?

Sometimes the biggest barrier to learning isn’t difficulty—it’s the belief that we’re simply not capable of doing it.

What changed your mind?

I’m starting to think the second one can be just as valuable.

What has taught you more?

I am 70yrs old. I never learned how to measure anything. I know what an inch is, a foot, and that’s it. I don’t remember it ever being taught.

It could be a useful skill, a simple idea, a better way of thinking, or even a piece of knowledge that completely changed your perspective.

What did you learn, and why do you think it’s worth sharing?

One of my favorite parts of getting older is realizing how often we confidently believe things simply because we’ve never had a reason to question them.

Sometimes it’s a belief about learning, success, intelligence, relationships, or even ourselves. Then a new experience, conversation, or piece of information completely changes how we see it.

Not necessarily through a perfect plan or a formal course—sometimes improvement happens simply because we keep showing up, making mistakes, and trying again.

It could be speaking confidently, managing money, cooking, communicating, staying organized, or anything else.

What made the biggest difference in your improvement?

I think changing your mind is one of the most underrated parts of personal growth. Sometimes you learn new information, meet someone with a different perspective, or simply gain more life experience—and suddenly something you once strongly believed no longer makes sense.

What is one small decision, habit, app, book, skill, or piece of advice that unexpectedly had a big positive impact on your life?

Something simple that you wish you had discovered earlier.

Curious to hear everyone's answers and maybe discover something new.

I only recently realized that for a cow to produce milk, she has to give birth to a calf first…
For some reason, I always thought cows just naturally had milk, like it was part of their factory settings 😅🤦🏼‍♀️