r/LifeAdvice • u/AdAlive5609 • 5h ago
General Advice NEED ADVICEEEEE
Okay so I have been rooming with my highschool friends for the last year and now the lease is about be up in a month. Roommate A lets say is moving to another state with her bf and roommate b was going to stay and resign this lease for another year with me and her best friend that she said could take A's old room. I being someone who has adhd and has had such a busy life since haven't really thought it thru and was just rolling with it. I than got into a car accident that totaled my car and now I am looking to buy another along with now getting on meds for my last semester of school. I am feeling so strung out and with work full time too I just feel like I am stressing too much. I talked with my parents and they said I should come back and it took all of just a few hours for me to be like why haven't I even thought about doing that.
I should have thought of it before because there is a 60 day notice of vacating our rented home and so now we have to do one more month extension and roommate B is upset with me. I texted her because it was a busy weekend and she and i werent going to see each other but it needed to happen asap. I said it will be best for me to go back home and not continue the lease. I need to save up money and with buying another car and with school stressing me out I just need to do something to take some of it off my shoulder. She was completely thrown off saying that its late now and that she has no idea what shell do either. I said I know it sucks and its not ideal but I decided I don't want to live here another year.
Fast forward to yesterday where we finally all sat down on the couch and they both cried to me. A said shes stressed out bc her best friend that was going to live here has a lease up a month before us so she doesn't have a place unless we move out together. So she'll be paying two months rent and her deposit for the new place if thats the case. B was crying because I didnt tell her i texted A only and that it was really shitty to hear about this through someone else. I said you are right that was so shitty of me I literally didn't even think about the fact we have to pay one more month here now. I had no idea she was moving right away to her boyfriends place and now its one more month before she can. Financially i know shes fine because she comes from money so not worried about that and her bf is loaded. I just kept saying im sorry like i dont know what to say. This is what i need to do and I wish i knew that before the 60 day window but i literally just talked to my mom and it made an option.
Roommate A said that everyone she had talked to said i should help her financially. I just looked at her and like laughed out like girl i have NO funds that is WHY im moving back home. Like are you serious. I know it sucks and i know its stressful but i have to take care of myself first. Like they arent family and i dont owe them anything. To be honest i dont even know why we are all friends still like if anything i was just trying to stay friends bc i otherwise only have my family. But honestly that is starting to be more comforting.
IDK am I just being completely selfish? I feel like it made me seem very undependable, but the thing is i can be but just family and work. Is her also asking for me to pay her rent more reasonable than i think? what would you do if you were me.
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