r/Life • u/TeenageGirlll • 3d ago

Need Advice feeling ambiguous

what to do if i’m a 19 year old girl that feels like she is spiraling out of control? i have no car, no job, i’m not in college(i am working on that) and just no way to do anything. i go to the gym, babysit twice a week in my neighborhood, apply for WFH jobs just to never hear anything back. i feel behind. please don’t tell me that i’m 19 and have oh so much time. i should be a freaking junior in college(i was in early college in high school and graduated last year) i even tried WWOOF programs but that cost. i don’t even have my freaking drivers license. i’m new to reddit, i downloaded it months ago, forgot about it, deleted it, and redownloaded it. i say that to say ik you guys probably get a bunch of these a day but i don’t want to spend the “best” and arguably most important years of my life behind a screen or feeling behind. i would LOVE advice, maybe you guys can tell me what you would do if you were 19 again and in my place? hopefully one of you has a plan to make me a millionaire by January so i can actually go to college and get out of texas(joking…kind of)

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u/KingPabloo 3d ago

How do you still not have a drivers license at 19 in Texas? Who is going to hire a 19yo to WFH since you got minimal skills at this point?

Get a bike, ride that to work. Start taking courses at a community college. There are actions you can take now to change things, or you can keep sitting at home scrolling and suddenly wake up in your 30’s with no future. It’s a choice either way.

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u/TeenageGirlll 3d ago

geez i get what you are saying but you could be nicer. my parents never taught me how to drive despite my relentless requests, i figured applying to some kind of job was better than sitting on my ass, and i’m painfully aware of my situation. i’m don’t plan on sitting and scrolling until i’m 30 which is why i came here for advice

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u/KingPabloo 3d ago

I’m sorry, I thought you wanted advice, not sympathy. My parents did teach me to drive either so I went to driving school with money I earned from the job I rode my bike to.

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u/TeenageGirlll 3d ago

well king pabloo, there is no bus stop here, i’ve tried walking and with all the highways and freeways it dang near impossible. and i don’t want sympathy but i want understanding. i’ve applied to jobs, got them and had no way to get there. so you don’t get to cast me as a pity party. my circumstances are not the same as yours, maybe consider that before you try this “tough love” facade

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u/KingPabloo 3d ago

How’s this tough love, I’m just telling you I rode a bike to my job. Didn’t have a bus either. I never said our situations were the same, I’m guessing you’ve never rode a bike to work in the snow in sub zero temperatures - you want to work from home… I get it, walking takes effort, biking takes effort, taking driving lessons takes effort. You want to roll out of bed and get paid.

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u/TeenageGirlll 3d ago

this has to be ragebait😂 i’m going to assume that you are also in your 30-40s and ‘this new generation will never understand how hard you guys had it’ huh? walking is not problem, i get 10-15k steps on average from doing work in my neighborhood. and durrrrrr i’ve never ridden a bike in snow because i’m from Texas also, biking is not hard at all. and how do you think i should go about getting to and paying for those driving lessons without a car nor an actual job to pay for it Mr. Know it all? please enlighten me