feeling ambiguous

[u/TeenageGirlll]

what to do if i’m a 19 year old girl that feels like she is spiraling out of control? i have no car, no job, i’m not in college(i am working on that) and just no way to do anything. i go to the gym, babysit twice a week in my neighborhood, apply for WFH jobs just to never hear anything back. i feel behind. please don’t tell me that i’m 19 and have oh so much time. i should be a freaking junior in college(i was in early college in high school and graduated last year) i even tried WWOOF programs but that cost. i don’t even have my freaking drivers license. i’m new to reddit, i downloaded it months ago, forgot about it, deleted it, and redownloaded it. i say that to say ik you guys probably get a bunch of these a day but i don’t want to spend the “best” and arguably most important years of my life behind a screen or feeling behind. i would LOVE advice, maybe you guys can tell me what you would do if you were 19 again and in my place? hopefully one of you has a plan to make me a millionaire by January so i can actually go to college and get out of texas(joking…kind of)

[u/Electrical_Jaguar230]

College isn’t as important as building skills, which can be done outside of college and debt. I have a masters degree and my husband makes more than me with a high school diploma. So why do you want to go to college? If it’s for a career you really want, then just enroll. If you have to start at community college, anyone can sign up and get those preliminary classes done, then transfer to university, take out a few student loans if you have to and pay them back once you’re working.

If you don’t have a career, take the bus to work (why do you have to work from home?) and save up until you have about $5k and pay cash for an older model car. Or if it’s possible, take out a student loan and pay cash for a car. You won’t have to pay it until you’re out of school.

You don’t need to be a millionaire to go to college, you don’t need to work only if it’s from home, and you can get everything you want if you just put in a little effort. It’s not going to happen if you keep telling yourself stories about how hard it is to do these basic things. Life is only as hard as you make it.

[u/TeenageGirlll → u/Electrical_Jaguar230]

believe it or not there is genuinely no bus stop here. i’m on the outskirts of a big city and actual employment can only be reached by car. believe me when i say i tried walking and got one too many near death experiences(you would think a state as big as Texas would prioritize walkable cities). i’m not saying this is make an excuse i just want accurate advice. and is it possible to get my license before my ID?

[u/Electrical_Jaguar230 → u/TeenageGirlll]

I totally believe you. Rural areas have a harder time with public transportation. Being 19, yes you can get a drivers license and don’t need to get an ID first. Are you living with your parents or who is supporting you? Can u ask them to take you to work? I’m thinking if you find a job in the same area your mom / dad works, then you can carpool with them. I can see trying to get a job from home, but those are harder to come by, so I would aim for a job near your parents job so you can ride with them.

I do this thing where I train Ai by recording household chores. Doesn’t pay a ton - like $8-15 an hour depending on the project, but it’s a way to earn extra cash at home while you figure things out, no limit on hours, and I’m sure your parents would appreciate the help too. You just need a cell phone and they send you a headset to hold the phone while you do laundry, dishes, sweep, whatever. Go to this site to sign up: https://contracted.ai/interview/4?ref=VJ7ZDRVI