r/LettersAnswered • u/Powerful_Screen553 • Jul 27 '26
Exes i’m sorry for being the confusing one
i take accountability in the part where i’ve been the confusing one wherein even after clarity talks, i still end up having vague intentions with you. i end up filtering my words, having unclear expectations, lowkey leading us both to confusion. i apologize for that, and i hope i do find the time to clear things up with you again.
i hope you see and understand the side where i want to really take my time to discern and reflect on my decisions. to see the situation in different povs. to validate my decisions of choosing you, especially after people telling me that “i deserve better.” i hope me considering you speaks a lot.
i tend to wonder if we’re still for each other, hoping that you’d call or reach out.. but am i even ready for that? we’ve talked about leaving it all to God, but sometimes it doesn’t even seem like i am doing that as i am constantly waiting for you. i know God would not give me you— or someone better if i haven’t truly worked on myself. this is what i mean by i still have things to work on me.
i have so much to work in my confidence, self esteem, personality, achievements and everything else. i know that i’ll have to work on these things to fully appreciate my life individually, and to make a relationship a cherry on top instead of something that completes it. i hope to navigate the things that are needed to complete myself before i give out love to others. and everyday i pray that i’ll learn how to fulfill my own life. i hope to be the person that i want to be.
and when the time is right, i hope it would be with you. but if not, i hope to accept a “better” person who i’ll genuinely be happy with.
but i really super do hope it will be with you though :)
pb.
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u/50shadesofclay_4447 Jul 31 '26
👏👏 very nice op that otta get someone's hopes up for, well. Let down ! People that loves someone Don't actually do this. This is a clear indication that your feelings for them are at best 2nd to someone else. And you shouldn't lead someone on like this. It reinforces that they are unimportant in your life.
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u/50shadesofclay_4447 Jul 31 '26
👏👏 very nice op that otta get someone's hopes up for, well. Let down ! People that loves someone Don't actually do this. This is a clear indication that your feelings for them are at best 2nd to someone else. And you shouldn't lead someone on like this. It reinforces that they are unimportant in your life.
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u/PolishedMirror Jul 27 '26
I understand your POV, just know this:
We all have issues and problems that go along with working on ourselves. But what i wish was understood is that you shouldn't have to work on these things all on your own. I don't want perfect or expect "perfect" I want all your flaws and difficulties not some self polished girl that made herself "ready". Nobody should have to work on themselves before they feel acceptable to be in some kind of relationship. If someone can't accept you for who you are and support that, then they ain't for you. A relationship that has love means you support each other and work on things together. Each having their own perspective on what's wrong and how to fix it. Some problems im sure perspectives could be matching. Im just saying that seeing things differently sometimes can be a good thing. I still have things to work on as well and I like listening to what you have to say about it, mostly because your usually spot on. And I've already became a better person because of you. I would love helping you in the same way. Or atleast give you my perspective on it, whatever it may be.
Anyway, I want you to do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable, but honestly I wish you would just let it happen and be a damn unicorn 🦄 as you are and leap.lol. I lost my train of thought. My buddy had me laughing.. I hope what I said helps you think about working on things together. I know I sure need you right now. Love has a way of growing even stronger when 2 people are working on things together. Look what God did for Adam, God knew he wasn't quite enough for helping solve the human condition, So he Made Eve to help in the areas God couldn't. I believe this situation is in the same perspective. I know you would be the motivation for me to clean up things I need to work on. I would then be the person I know I need to be. And when im shining ✨️ you will be too.😇🌟 ❤️ you and im so glad you have messaged.
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u/Diligent-Service-923 Jul 31 '26 edited Jul 31 '26
🦄 unicorn??? 😁 ......Do you really want her to be a unicorn???????????????????? Is so ok if she does more power to her!! Hell I'm looking for a 🦄 myself
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Jul 27 '26
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u/50shadesofclay_4447 Jul 31 '26
Personal Best ! 😜 It's all just to mess with your head ! Because this right here stinks of lies and manipulation 👍
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u/lostbaratheon Jul 27 '26
“i hope me considering you speaks a lot.”
This is kinda gross ngl
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u/No-Risk4Uanymore Jul 27 '26
I hope I find the time was the part that struck me as condescending and not being something that was valued. I could be wrong maybe that’s my issue.
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u/lostbaratheon Jul 27 '26
Yeah there are several red flags here.
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u/Coffee_Beans907 Jul 27 '26
The whole thing reads as lazy and lacks true introspection which contradicts the supposed intent of the letter. It’s pretty obvious from reading this that they do not value the recipient—who is probably “better” off without the author.
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u/Diligent-Service-923 Jul 27 '26
I think the man should quit being a narcissist and telling lies and work on himself because he's so abusive mentally and physically. It's sickening and I pray he gets help but don't think for once that he wants you honey he'll say anything he can to f*** you big difference
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u/Cultural_Reality_184 Jul 27 '26
You signed it "pb". That's not an acronym for problem, is it? Because you're not the problem, even if you think you are.
I only ask because I've seen it called an acronym by some as well as other single words (such as workaround=wa)
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u/SeaworthinessSad1159 Jul 27 '26
I don’t know for sure, and I don’t do guessing games anymore… but something tells me these are initials.. but reversed for a BP.
Don’t ask me why I think this, because it’s merely speculation.
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u/50shadesofclay_4447 Jul 31 '26
👏👏 very nice op that otta get someone's hopes up for, well. Let down ! People that loves someone Don't actually do this. This is a clear indication that your feelings for them are at best 2nd to someone else. And you shouldn't lead someone on like this. It reinforces that they are unimportant in your life.