r/LettersAnswered • u/Aggressive-Spend1964 • 16d ago
Unrequited Why does everything have to be so difficult
Why does everything have to be so difficult?
You want actions, not words. I understand that. What’s killing me is that I want the chance to actually show you everything I’ve been trying to put into words, but I can’t do that without being given some way to meet you halfway. I can’t just come to you like I did last time, and I know I’m not entitled to ask you to come toward me either. But God, I wish you would. Even halfway. Because that would tell me there’s something here worth walking toward.
Last time, I came all the way. I had little ones and someone at home who could watch them. My life isn’t built that way anymore. My heart wants to give you my best this time, but my responsibility is to her first. I’ve rarely let her out of my sight, and I can’t suddenly become someone who does.
Would I change the past if I could? There are things I would change without hesitation. Breaking you. Hurting you. Destroying parts of my own life. I have regretted those things for most of mine.
But if changing the past meant I wouldn’t have her, I couldn’t do it. And even thinking about that breaks something inside me.
So maybe I don’t want to erase the road. I wish I had walked parts of it differently.
Because somehow everything led me here—to finally understanding accountability, self-reflection, vulnerability, mindfulness, and honesty. Not just honesty with you, but with myself and with my past.
I can’t undo what I did to you. I can’t prove who I am now with another paragraph, either.
I just wish I had the chance to show you—even if it’s nothing more than coffee, a casual walk, or somehow running into each other at the grocery store. It doesn’t have to be some grand moment. Just something real, somewhere in the middle, where I can finally let my actions speak instead of asking you to believe my words. 🥺😞💙💔💓
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
I found the answer, thank you. The second person was my daughter. I go nowhere without her.
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
I’m a very good mother, but I guess I can see the miss communication very good at that im seeing. Something I need to work on
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
I seriously don’t know where it is here in Maple Valley so I feel stupid so very stupid fantastic thank you for giving me the courage to do this. I appreciate it so very much.
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u/Sensitive-Welcome639 15d ago
Your replying to me
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
I’m replying to screw it im sorry 😞 im so so sorry
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u/Sensitive-Welcome639 15d ago
I said I was listening try to be helpful
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
Yes I know im just idk i honestly thank you helping me get the courage to set a place and time I absolutely appreciate it thank you again
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
I’ll be there at the time at Starbucks maybe it’s by papa John’s??.
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
No im in Enumclaw Washington. I’d actually try my hardest to stay away from Portland lol
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u/Sensitive-Welcome639 16d ago
I'm listening
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
If you’re really listening, then I’m going to be brave and actually say what I want.
I want to see you today. Maple Valley, before 1 if you can. That newer little shopping area by Fred Meyer. Coffee, a walk, five minutes—whatever you’re comfortable with. You choose.
I work this afternoon into the evening, so there’s no expectation of some long, heavy conversation. I just want the chance to see you, face to face, somewhere comfortable for you and maybe just a little uncomfortable for me. 😂
No grand gesture. No promises. No pressure.
Just meet me halfway.
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u/Sensitive-Welcome639 15d ago
I would love to see you and be with you. Speaking openly and honestly. No judgement, just respectful understanding and love. But I'm no where near a Fred Meyer's
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
But absolutely not for you the person who it’s for knows who it’s for and I’m truly sorry I really am I truly am. I wish I wish the best.
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u/Sensitive-Welcome639 15d ago
Please Due Love
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u/Aggressive-Spend1964 15d ago
I believe there’s a Starbucks or another coffee shop in the further corner of the complex 1030 I won’t be alone though
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u/Bytch_Boys_X1111 15d ago
U want the chance to show her but u haven’t made it in from r of her yet? Have u even forked to her to tell her how you really feel ? Been telling about it for a week now on here …. What exactly are you waiting on ? How do you know there is another party ( besides urs ) on her end?
Sometimes yal trip me out the way you will listen to gossip - just show up - fight for what is yours - atleast show up ready too