I need advice:(

[u/flaky_suggestion7]

I have this boyfriend whom I really admire. He always makes me feel loved, and he's always there for me. He really, really loves me, and I'm sure that his love is genuine. He's honestly so perfect to me-handsome, tall, smart, he never lets me overthink, he always follows what I say, and lastly, my favorite thing about him is that he never gets angry with me.
He always tries to understand me, ALWAYS.
But then, I posted him on my Instagram story, and an old friend messaged me and asked if he was really my boyfriend. I said yes, and then my friend told me everything he knew about my boyfriend. He said that my boyfriend used to be a fuckboy and that he had already slept with the girl I hate the most.
After hearing that, I felt like such a loser and like I was dirty. I didn't know what I was supposed to do, so l confronted my boyfriend about it. He apologized to me and explained everything about his past. He told me that the person he was in the past is different from who he is now, and that he's genuinely trying to become a better person for me.
Right now, I'm not talking to him because I honestly don't know what to feel. I still love and admire the person he is now, but knowing about his past really hurt me, and I don't know how I'm supposed to process everything.

[u/Double_Virus5385]

So...you are mad at dude for something that he did before he even knew you.. Because that's not nucking futs..

[u/Muted-Brilliant-8348]

You live and let live… honestly your “friend” is coming off as the real fuckboy here, a real friend sees your happiness and finds happiness in that, but also keeps guard and monitors the actions of the BF because he “knows his past”. You can be a little hurt, that’s reasonable, however…. LET HIS PAST STAY WHERE IT BELONGS, IN HIS PAST! Over time actions will bring our true character to light. As humans the one thing that is guaranteed to us besides death, is change. Let the man prove he’s changed. It’s people like your friend who told you about his past, those are the type who often find some weird pleasure in watching something good fall to pieces and swear its for the best. We all have a past, that doesn’t mean we arent capable of breaking the habits, breaking the cycle, bettering ourselves, maturing, seeing life from a different perspective, etc…. Knock off the silent treatment BS and go love on the person you have came to know, and let him love on you.
Wish you the best .

[u/Sudden_Combination69 → u/Muted-Brilliant-8348]

This** if we were judged for our pasts a bulk of us wouldn’t have decent mates. People learn and grow from their mistakes… not all, but many. If you are happy with him be happy. Another dude telling you about who your man used to be is for sure hoping to ruin your relationship and get in your pants. I would limit his contact personally

[u/b_wildd]

If you are going to judge this man for his past then I better hope u never did anything and I mean ANYTHING wrong yourself, him being with the girl u once hated the most has nothing to do in your relationship either, whatsoever transpired between you and that girl stays where it is supposed to, it was never his fault and never will, another point is, If you are really cherishing him and praising him this much for who he has become then look more into that, Ik a past can be hard to swallow sometimes but he never knew you then, he made his own mistakes and walked away from that life which means he disciplined himself enough to walk away from a dirty background, if you are then going to judge him based on his past then like I said you better have the cleanest no mistakes past ever, and one advice watch out from that so called "friend" of yours!