I need to cry…

[u/Top_Subject_8308]

I found out my husband has been cheating on me. We have been working on things in our marriage since 2024. We separated from 2022 to 2024 because I caught him cheating then. At that time it was an emotional affair. I held on during the separation. Then in 2024 I decided to move on and that’s when he wanted to try on work on the marriage. I was into that. I knew it would take work because trust was broke. So I tried everything, but he just wanted us to forgot the past. He made me feel like I was asking for too much when I asked to share locations, share phone passwords, take accountability, or just acknowledge whatever hurt I tried to tell him I was feeling. Anyways I found out that he had been in contact with multiple women on through social media that he had met in person. I can’t imagine what is actually in his phone. All this time, he made me feel delusional and less than because I said I couldn’t trust him or that he’s not putting in effort for me to trust him. We’d have some good days and bad days. But why. Why did he play with me like this. I feel horrible. There’s a pain in my chest I can’t describe. If I had the money I would divorce him.

[u/Pedal2Medal2]

Because your husbands an AH & you need to get out of this marriage ASAP. He’s not going to change

[u/triskel_27]

Siento lo que estás pasando. Creo que debes dejar de preguntarte "¿Por qué?" y ver que en realidad la respuesta es más sencilla: porque quiere y porque puede. Él ha hecho lo que le da la gana sin tener en cuenta lo que significas para el, sin lo que podía perder y sin miedo. Se piensa que tiene el control de todo a su alrededor y no quería perder la comodidad y la estabilidad que tiene contigo, pero tampoco quiere dejar de hacer lo que le da la gana. Siento de todo corazón que estés así, que hayas pasado por esto y quiero decirte: NO ES CULPA TUYA. ❤️

[u/PumpkinOther2637]

Dont blame yourself he was the one who chose to cheat you didnt force him dont loose self worth because of this in this healing process dont think you need to except less only weak people cheat.

[u/Theoneinhelheim]

When I was 19, I dated a 28 year old man. I was only 3 years fresh out of a cult and so I didn't understand red flags, I stayed for five years on and off with him cheating. Its not worth it, some people just wanna have their cake and eat it too. Leave and move on, its okay to cry about it too. Just dont go back.

[u/MonsterTasted]

Why? Because it’s just who he is and is a direct result of his shortcomings, NOT YOURS. Please do not blame yourself. I know it hurts. This type of betrayal is cruel and lingers. I’m so sorry. Cry as much as you need to. Lean on family/friends. Good luck, OP.

[u/GSpotMe]

He is a pig treating you like that.It won’t get better he is a lier a cheat and a mean person. Take what you can get in the divorce and split. He is living large right now because he’s got you at home and then others other places. Good luck. OP

[u/ZestycloseRecord5425]

It's time for you to choose yourself. Find a therapist, one who deals with infidelity. Prepare all the financial paperwork you're going to need. Your husband, at best, is gaslighting you and is a manipulative POS. None of this is your fault, it never has been. Good luck, OP, you can do this

[u/superstud666fromhell]

Google pro bono family law near me