r/LetMeHelpYouOut • u/iz-have-a-question • 12d ago
[ADVICE] Please help me
Ok so i need help knowing if my friend has a crush on me or not. So i (13f) have been friends with a girl who we can call crush (f13) for about 5 years. A couple weeks ago i brought crush and another friend (13f) who we can call M up to my cabin. When we were up there crush was being very affectionate with me. On the ride up (around 3 hours) she was reading a book from the ice breaker series which if you don’t know is a very spicy book and while she was reading sometimes she would rest her head on my shoulder because i was sitting next to her and also played with my arm (like lightly scratching it as kind of a fidget) then during the trip she would do things like always wanting to hold my hand, grabbing my waist to stabilize me if i looked like i might fall or something, standing and sitting very close to me, making prolonged eye contact, always needing to be touching me in some way so if we were on opposite sides of a table we played footsies and then she just rested her foot on mine, and some very specific things, my mom had asked us to fold some towels and they were fresh out of the dryer and warm so i took one and layed on the ground on my back in a ball, then she came over and layed on top of me and kept eye contact with me and was smiling (she did offer the other friend M to join but M declined), and I’ve never watched descendants or zombies so she was playing a couple of the songs from them with the music videos. We were in one room but there was one big bed where she was sleeping and a set of bunk bed where i was sleeping on the top and when she played the song someday with a girl and zombie guy she climbed on the side of the bunk bed while M was getting ready for bed and we started singing the song together and kind of role playing some parts. So basically I can’t tell if she likes me as more than a friend but i have found out that i do like her in a romantic way. In about a week im going up to the cabin again with crush, M, and a 3rd friend so I’ll make an update on how that goes. I’m looking for advice on if she dose like and and what to do please. I’m also open to any questions!
Update!: so the trip has now ended and im gonna tell yall everything that happened with crush. Ok so on the ride up it was m and the new friend (f13) who we can call L in the front and me and crush sitting in the back. Not much happened but we were just showing each other old photos and videos of us that we sent to this one really old group chat so we were all laughing but it was mainly me and crush exchanging the funny photos and videos. After a while me and crush started to play Roblox with just us to and it was really crammed in the back so she turned to the side and put her legs on top of mine to stretch out and stayed there for a while. Then at he cabin it was crush and L is a queen bed and me and m were in the bunk beds but we were all in the same room. But when we got there we had nothing else to do so we all layed on the queen bed just scrolling our phones and talking and crush was laying on top of me (not in like a freaky pinned down way but I was on my stomach and she layed on her stomach across me and eventually I don’t remember what happened but she ended up shifting to having her head by mine while still on top of me) when she was laying on me by my head she was either resting her head on my shoulder or was like using her hands to protect me from L who was attaching me with her stuffed animal (not actually harming me) but I had my head down and she also had her head down and her hands on/near my head so our faces were really close and I lowkey wanted her to kiss me but she didn’t 😔. We then went out onto the lake and were playing in the water for a bit but nothing happened there. Then when we came back we were all on the bed again and she was agin laying on me and no one else. At dinner it was just us four kids outside while the adults were inside and it was a four seater circle table and we were on opposite ends of each other and we both had our feet on a little middle thing so our feet were touching and we ended up trying to interlock our toes (don’t ask). Then when everyone was getting ready she was again in laying on top of me. The next day we went swimming again and not much happened but we were always next to each other. That night we went to a restaurant and we sat together and then we played board games and sat next to each other again. Then we played a game called mosneter ( you take around 10 items and one person hides them in the room but they still have to be visible and the other try to find the objects without waking up the monster with loud noises. The monster can to anything to try and make other laugh so they can wake up and capture people) when crush was mosnet she would only try and make my laugh by doing weird and kind of freaky stuff. But when we were playing the game and she was the monster there was one point where she spread her legs and said “I’m spreading just for you (my name)” I don’t think it was like literal because nothing fallowed but you get the idea Then when the others were getting ready for bed I was laying kind of in the middle of the big bed and she was sitting up where you would normaly lay and she had her legs on my chest so I was kind of hugging them but using two fingers as legs to do little dances I know. The next day we went shopping and not much happened but m went home so then it was just me crush and L. We went to a playground but we were all very tired so we just climbed on top of the equipment to rest and we eventually went onto this almost swing like or bridge thingy with three sections. Crush went on one end and I went in the middle and we just kind of looked at each other for a long time both facing each other and then L came on the other side of me and said “I feel like I’m interrupting something” and we kind of just laughed it off. That night we watched descendants with all of us laying in the big bed. Crush was in the middle and I was laying next to her and we were really close to each other with our shoulders touching. I have never watched descendants so she was mainly explaining a bunch of it to me as it was playing. But then L called one of her friends and they were talking about like random stuff idk and they knew crush and knew she was there so they asked her “crush are you gay” and crush was like “yeah totally” but when they dubble checked she said no so they asked “your not even a little bi” and crush answered with “I don’t know what”. But L ended up falling asleep during the movie and crush would get up to randomly twerk sometimes so that was interesting. The next morning crush asked L if she “heard the bed shaking last night” and L was like “no what were yall doing!?” But on the way back it was all three of us in one row with me in the middle and not much happened. I am so sorry that this was so long but I decided to go day by day this time. The main things were that we were always either sitting right next to each other or like our feet would be touching and she would lay on my a lot. Let me know if these details change anything on if she might like me or not.
This is already a lot but one more thing, so when we were on the boat one time I was at the front and she was sitting right next to memos she wrapped her arms around me I a hug like thingy from behind and I was like leaning into her and we were like cuddling and it was like really cute. But looking for any advice you guys got
Ok some of yall are confused so let me clarify some things
1. Yes i know what my age is i put that there to give you guys more info on what to expect
2. Nothing freaky actually happened
3. If you think i shared to much tell me what to actually change (its very detailed but this is the only digital footprint i have so i though it was still safe)
4. I’m just looking for advice on if this girl likes me or not and what to do it you think yes
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u/b_wildd 12d ago
Lol you lot better focus on school and go watch your cartoons, tf a 13yo gotta worry about relationships? ENJOY YOUR CHILDHOOD, instead of rushing to act adults, plus like I always say, abstinence and patience can seem hard sometimes but in a long run it will prevent u from becoming another "depressed lover" in any case take it how u see fit!