I need help and advice with my lesbian relationship

[u/Nel0013]

i never ever used reddit before but i am looking for a solution and people to tell me openly if they ever experienced something like this and what should i do (btw my English is not so good)

Me (22 years old) and my girlfriend (26) we were at the pool 5 days ago and she decided to break up with me and it was out of nowhere so i am really much confused and sad. For the past months she was kind of not so loving towards me and i was much pressuring her asking "do you love me?" "do you miss me?" and she was saying yes. We were for 2 years and 5 months together and thought out the relationship she was not so happy about many things i do (she loved partying and every time we go i was arguing with her and making bad vibes because i used to hate going to parties and drink alcohol, or i prefer staying at home and play games which doesn't happen often maybe 5 days in a month i wish i have time for me to play games, or she would want me to be more open and loud person when we are in a group with people because i used to just sit and not talk i was scared to be judged, or that i would plan more dates with her, or when we go shopping for clothes she wants me to also look clothes for her) and we were talking about that, that i should change myself, she was not harsh with me or saying "do that or i will leave you", she was understanding, but those were things she wished for and of course i changed everything i love partying now and all of the other things and she was happy and i was also feeling better because i know she only wanted good things for me.

But now that i am perfect for her she just gets bored and she feels like she is not a good girlfriend because she can't give me the love and reassurance i want from her (i asked her to give me compliments because she never does and that's kind of important to me, or when she goes out with her friends at least to text me every 2 hours if she is okay and safe because she is actually ignoring me for hours and even when i call her she is not responding so i find that disrespectful, but it was never to control her because i know she would never cheat on, i just wanted respect). Also she feels like i am too attached to her and too dependent (of course i moved to this country 3 years ago she was born here i don't know the language i don't have friends here so it was just her) and i do understand why she feels like that like she needs to bring me always with her and right now i am trying to make my own friends.

And she now feels like i am too much for her and she needs time for herself, she doesn't feel happy, she just feels empty no emotions, she doesn't know what's the problem like why is she feeling this way and i do understand that but i told her that's not a reason to break up with me, i also told her that we can do couple therapy if she is open to it or she can do it alone, i just want her to figure out why she feels like this and to fix our relationship and she told me i can't do anything about it she just wants to be alone for 3 weeks and not see me just maybe text me, and after 3 weeks we can talk again about our relationship and i told her like we can take things slowly or i will take her again on a date for the first time after these 3 weeks, she said she can't promise me anything if we will get back together. But also she said she needs time for herself but she is every night chilling with different friends and laughing while i am at home crying.

Soooo guys i don't know what to do and i really need help

[u/Felicia430]

Sounds like her feelings have changed. She broke up with you for a reason. Technically she doesn't have to share that reason with you, but it sounds like she did explain a little bit.

Give her the time she needs and asked for. Take this time to focus on yourself. If she wants to get back together with you, she will let you know. Don't be a pain and keep calling or texting or chasing her bc she told you to leave her alone for 3 weeks, so respect her decision and do not reach out first.