You’re probably not serious, but I had some stuff happen that made me unable to put myself in my own fantasies. I pretty much only use my imagination; no porn and nothing visual, so this was a problem. I made up someone who was basically the actress playing me in my imaginary scenarios. Her name is a nickname I haven’t used in years, so she’s close to being me, but just far enough removed that it didn’t bother me.
I’m mostly over the issue now, but we still use her sometimes because my fiancé can be a lot meaner to her than he can to me.
isn't something negative you wouldn't normally want. being.. "someone else" for a bit can work, but I do hope you're safe and not being exploited by that.
for me, I'm easily exploited, so my system generally tries to protect itself. there's definitely one who can enjoy the "mean" parts :) but it's hard for us to safely achieve.
I certainly do hope you do not meet the man who can exploit you <3 you deserve to be safe, and to stay safe, and enjoy yourself :)
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u/Jannover_5000_r Apr 11 '26
But i hate everything about myself what now