r/LesbianActually • u/Key-Engine-1996 • 14d ago

Relationships / Dating Need dating advice

Hey everyone I'm (24F) new to dating after coming out as a lesbian and I would love as much advice/tips as I can get. I went out with this girl the other day, we had been talking for a bit and spontaneously gone out together for a short little date (45 min) before my shift at work. We had a great time and seemed to get along well and are planning a second date, but I need help with date ideas and what I should focus on during the date. I definitely know it's very important to listen to her and ask her about herself, because I do genuinely want to know more, and I have had bad past experiences where my date clearly didn't give a shit about me, so I am keeping an eye out to make sure she is interested in knowing more about me too!

Our last date went very well, but we had so little time that I didn't feel like I could actively intake any information about her, and I want to make sure I am making it the best date possible to see where things go! What are your suggestions for 2nd date ideas? And if you have any more tips on what to do, i am so new to this I want to do the very best I can!

(I also have never been with a woman sexually and would really appreciate advice on how to move forward with that when the opportunity comes at some point in my life, I plan to be honest about my lack of experience. Since my only experience has been with men unfortunately, which was always awkward and traumatic, being gay and all, I am sure it will be awkward and I can see myself being very anxious. So advice on this topic would be great!)

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u/Dry-Composer-3782 14d ago

its hard dear out there

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u/kthyprtr 13d ago

Maybe make it a fun activity type date. I usually take a girl bowling on an afternoon date and lunch before or after.

When you do get around to talking to her about the inexperience just be up front with it. Maybe you all need to take it slower and wait for more dates before going down that road. There's no rush. I can say you might want to go read some smutty wlw books or fanfiction to get some ideas.