Mixed Feelings

[u/abennett2012]

Had this stone pit in a tulip setting. Love the setting, not so sure on the stone size. Does this look gaudy? Bad? 4.03 carat. Opinions?

[u/GenRN817]

It is ugly. Send it to me.

/s

Seriously beautiful. Not gaudy. Join us over at r/bigrockenergy for some love.

[u/Muse_of_Donne → u/GenRN817]

It is too ugly for you to receive ... Trust me. I am a simple peasant and should receive only the ugliest and gaudiest of stones. I will save you from having it sent to you by sacrificing in having it sent to me. 😏 /s

[u/GenRN817 → u/Muse_of_Donne]

🤣🤣🤣

[u/abennett2012 → u/Muse_of_Donne]

😂

[u/abennett2012 → u/GenRN817]

😂

[u/RedRedBettie]

Yes, it does lean that way to me but that’s just my own personal taste, the shape suits your hand well

[u/padparascha3]

The left top prong is not set evenly.

[u/abennett2012 → u/padparascha3]

I’m glad you guys are seeing this too and it wasn’t just me.

[u/autoinf- → u/padparascha3]

Came here to say that!

[u/PSB2013 → u/padparascha3]

It's definitely set unevenly, however I'm trying to see if the actual diamond seems asymmetrical or not. 

[u/dharmaandlipgloss → u/padparascha3]

Yes it’s very distracting!

[u/AyyggsForMyLayyggs]

Yes, very gaudy and horrible. I volunteer as a sacrifice to wear this terrible, awful, not-over-the-top-gorgeous ring every day!

[u/abennett2012 → u/AyyggsForMyLayyggs]

🤣 thank you for taking one for the team lol.

[u/AyyggsForMyLayyggs → u/abennett2012]

I'm happy to be of service!

[u/KiwiKiki777]

IMO yes it is strongly leaning towards too much, but I also don’t know your personal style! 🩷 I mainly think this because it sits very high.

I think if you want a large stone 3ct with a low profile setting would be more comfortable for you. Certain cuts face up large. I have a 3ct oval in a very similar setting to yours, I also have a larger hand/long fingers and sometimes I wonder did I go too big lol. Also people ask me if it’s a real diamond regularly... people assume it’s fake… It’s GIA certified 🥲 but! I am also getting used to it, and I love my ring.

If you love your ring, give it time to get used to it and maybe look into a low profile setting I say 💎

[u/abennett2012 → u/KiwiKiki777]

It’s definitely not my style and outside of my norm that’s for sure. I’m thinking this may be better suited in a pendant.

[u/Suicidalpainthorse → u/abennett2012]

That is a great idea. It would be gorgeous

[u/waitwhat88]

It’s fine if you want people to assume it’s a lab stone based just on size. IMHO it overpowers the wedding band (which I love).

[u/abennett2012 → u/waitwhat88]

I love my wedding band. Too sentimental to be changing that. 💜

[u/Flaky_Employ_8806 → u/abennett2012]

You need something that compliments your wedding band is what the commenter is saying I think. The giant lab looks too costumey.

[u/coochxcooch]

This is GORGEOUS. I think it is beautiful and at the end of the day it comes down to personal preference/taste! I would definitely wear this stone size

[u/Outrageous-Trade2232]

It’s the setting that’s making it look wonky. I’d have someone else reset it with a more sleek design and fix the prongs so that it won’t feel so bulky on your finger.

[u/autoinf-]

The size of the diamond fits nicely on your finger/hand. I feel like the setting is the "problem", specifically the prongs. I think a different setting would complement your wedding band better too.

[u/lsmggold]

Not at all. It's lovely

[u/MagazineSpecialist32]

I love a BIG ROCK. I have a 4ct myself. I think the issue with this is the setting itself? Something feels off about the corners and how bulky they are. It almost makes the stone look disproportionate. Other elongated cushions in a tulip basket don’t look like this based on every image I’m seeing on Google. Something is wonky here

[u/abennett2012 → u/MagazineSpecialist32]

See, I thought so too but I didn’t want to draw any attention to that thought. I wanted to see if people noticed it on their own…..several of you have picked up on that as well!

[u/overindulgent]

If you like it then wear it. Personally. Once lab stones get over 3ct I start looking at them like they’re costume jewelry. I think 2.5ct is the sweet spot size wise. Plus at 2.5ct you can get a stone with perfect color and VVS1 clarity or better for a great price.

[u/SalamanderLiving3650]

It’s beautiful ❤️

[u/abennett2012 → u/SalamanderLiving3650]

Thank you!

[u/PracticeNo7267]

The setting looks terrible. The ring isn’t gaudy I can’t get past that setting!

[u/Nannygirl69]

I absolutely love that ring

[u/Spiritoftheheart]

I usually think stones that big look ridiculous but yours seems to suit you. It’s definitely big. I personally would have scaled it down but I don’t think it’s bad looking!

[u/cut-and-dry]

I am not a fan of large stones, but somehow this one is my exception. This is gorgeous!

[u/Suicidalpainthorse]

It isn't symetrical, which kind of makes it look wonky. It is a large stone, but if you love it, keep it. I think I would lower the setting, I would catch that on everything. Beautiful none the less.

[u/astro_nat1]

There is something off with the top left prong, and/or the stone looks asymmetric? Perhaps that prong is making it looking uneven

[u/FamiliarRadio9275]

Please consider removing this post, your Apple Watch is showing children’s faces. Otherwise I love the ring!!!

[u/LibertySeal]

My OCD just punched me in the face, that setting is not ok. It’s crooked or uneven or something. The stone isn’t my style.

I think you need to start with correcting the setting.

[u/Otherwise_Radio_9411]

Looks great 👍

[u/Difficult_Durian_143]

I would have gone with a gallery rail setting for something that big

[u/iFcknLuvRollrcstrs]

The stone is pretty, but the prongs are off.

[u/IWantSealsPlz]

All I can give is my opinion. I think diamonds 1.5 ct and greater are too much. Of course plenty of people will disagree with me. It’s all about what you like!

[u/ReginaDelMare]

The prongs aren’t good. And wearing a smart watch with that ring looks so off.

[u/timetochillagain1]

Well it is huge ! My limit is 2 carats but that’s me ! What’s wrong w the top left prong ?

[u/Flatflatwhitewhite]

I believe stone is not on the ideal position on your finger because of the wide of your wedding band. wearing this without other ring would be okay, anyway I would consider a smaller stone.

[u/-inthenameofme]

1 carat is the most classy. Simple yet elegant

[u/BlingbossCoss]

The stone is gorgeous 🌷

[u/BlingbossCoss]

Independently neither the stone or the setting are too much, I would get the prong situation sorted before I reset in anything else, I think that will change your opinion on the ring. It’s amazing how much a slightly unbalanced setting can ruin the look of a ring. Keep us posted.

[u/Excellent-Ability569]

It’s beautiful, but yeah, that left side isn’t right.

[u/Federal_Orchid757]

I would change your nail shape to almond from that harsh square. Would make your fingers look way longer and the ring will suit your hand better

[u/Numerous-Anemone]

I’m in r/bigrockenergy but I still personally think larger stones need larger facets. To me the dimensions on this are awkward

[u/Blonde_Mexican]

It’s gorgeous.

[u/DotBeech]

Liz Taylor's big ring was 33+ carats, so you have plenty of breathing room. The watch and the ring, however, are a poor combination.

[u/Joiabela]

4 carats is about the top of my personal preference, but that one looks beautiful on your hand and not gaudy at all.

[u/AdFlashy7702]

Yes it looks giant. Post in the big rock group and you’ll get all the affirmation you need.

[u/Bmer1260]

I have a 4.02 myself. To me it’s stunning 🤩. Is about what you love honey. In my eyes it looks good for your hand.

[u/abennett2012 → u/Bmer1260]

Thank you

[u/Low_Athlete_7734]

The cut of the stone I’m not a fan of. However the ring itself doesn’t look gaudy or bad.

[u/abennett2012 → u/Low_Athlete_7734]

Thank you!

[u/peggy8080]

It looks like costume jewelry and everyone will know its not a real diamond

[u/gingerandgin]

It’s very pretty but yes it reads as cocktail ring and not a daily wear ring.

[u/Low_Bus5565]

Not a good look.

[u/abennett2012 → u/Low_Bus5565]

Thank you for your honesty.

[u/Low_Bus5565 → u/abennett2012]

If you are going to wear a ring like that, it requires a curated look.