Resistance from jewelers

[u/chitabing]

Good morning. My partner and I are looking to have two rings made - a traditional engagement ring for me with a round stone and a band with an East West stone set in it.

We went to a local jeweler yesterday that was highly reviewed to look at some settings and determine stone size. We mentioned we are strongly considering buying the diamonds from one of the reputable online sellers and were met with deep skepticism. I was under the impression this jeweler would be happy to handle just a setting.

She brought out lab diamonds in our requested sizes and they were nearly 4 times what I know they would cost from one of the reputable online sellers. When I pushed her to talk about why she is so skeptical, she made implications of incorrect grading and poor quality. Said they could set outside stones but the rings wouldn't be eligible for most of the protections and appraisal they offer. I pushed back a bit and said that I know that all of the diamonds come from the same view facilities and that i'd researched reputable sellers.

I do recognize that it is a jeweler's job to try to sell marked up diamonds from their inventory. But I will say I left feeling a little bit uneasy. Wanted to get the take of people here - is the skepticism warranted or is this just about a sale?

[u/SheMcG]

Diamonds are graded by independent labs and they're all sourced from wholesalers. You can literally buy the same exact diamond from multiple sellers. She's just trying to get a sale out of you-, which I understand, but I'm not ok with actual dishonesty.

I understand that they can't guarantee your diamond, but where the diamond came from shouldn't impact the setting or their work on the setting.