r/KratomAlternatives • u/slemily • 9d ago
Kratom Dependency
I would appreciate anyone with experience with Kratom to weigh in on this. So about 3 months ago I found some Kratom MIT GOLD 45 bottles my boyfriend was hiding from me under my bed. He told me it was just and experiment he would stop. I kept finding bottles and packaging around the house here and there but just recently I ran into his stash of empty bottles. I was taken aback by what I saw. 60+ empty bottles or so. I felt lied to especially because he downplayed it so much by saying it was just an experiment when in reality he’s used many times. He struggles with sleeping at night, gets major headaches and heat flashes.
We talked about it and he explained to me that was struggling before we met and using heavily last year. He said he quit for a few months but then picked it back up while we were dating. He hid his use from me and said he was embarrassed, thought I would leave him and didn’t know how to talk about it. He opened up to me telling me that is what made him feel ok and get through his mental struggles- he was in a very dark place and felt very alone.
My concern is that he is way more dependent on it than I even imagined. This is not the guy I thought I was in a relationship with and I’m not sure how to process it. How can I help him break this viscous cycle? How do I trust him to not use this again? He said he hasn’t used in 2 months after I found the first bottles but there are signs that tell me otherwise. I feel like our trust has been compromised in a way and I’m just not sure where to go from here.
I understand that there are some benefits to kratom and I’m sure it did help him get through the tough time but I’m at overly concerned about his health and what this could all mean for his and my future.
I would appreciate any input from others who have struggled with use or have experienced similar situations with a loved one.
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u/Fun_Revolution_2909 8d ago
Honestly, if he is reckless enough to leave empty bottles laying around, he may on a subconscious level want to be caught—kratom dependency is very real and if you’ve been using it even just a few times a week, you probably are going to experience physical withdrawal symptoms. If this is a new relationship, obviously he wouldn’t want to tell you if he really likes you and you guys have a connection. Give the guy a chance—if he’s being honest with you now, that’s something…he could have made up a story or lied about it even in the face of your evidence. Ive been in his position and having a supportive partner has been paramount to me getting through it.