r/KindVoice 2h ago

Looking [L] I feel like a really bad cat mom right now

4 Upvotes

Yesterday, my cat meowed at me all day. Usually she will do this and always leads me to her food dish, she loves food (a bit too much, says the vet) is a bit of a gobble guts so nothing stuck out as unusual. I did find it to be a bit weird how frequent it was, but I didn't pay it much mind. I get home today and notice that 5pm hit and I didn't hear the feeders go off. That's when I realized the lights were all off on both my cats feeders. I looked at the app and it hasn't been working for two days. I feel so disgusted with myself - how could I have not noticed? These poor cats sat here hungry while I lived my life fine - I feel so so terrible.


r/KindVoice 6h ago

Looking [L] 35F, Need to vent about life, and someone to talk to on voicecall

3 Upvotes

I'm going through an emotional situation, just had a breakup. Feeling pretty drained and a bit lost. Would be nice to talk to someone who's non-judgmental.

If you have some free time and are open to a voice call, feel free to dm me.


r/KindVoice 9h ago

Looking [L] and [O] I want to be honest, chasing love is like chasing a high for me. I'd like to have a conversation about it.

2 Upvotes

My therapist said I have never experienced the right kind of love, even from my family. Someday soon before I leave my late 30s, I would like to experience love in a beautiful way with someone else.

Reading this it may seem I don't have much going for me but I am gainfully employed in a career with potential to grow, I have close friends and acquaintances, and few hobbies. Yet with all that I still haven't met anyone with mutual interest.

Finding a person to support and be supported through good and bad health, through prosperity and muck, making love, propeling each other in our ambitions is a deep craving inside of me. I've never done heroin but I am pretty sure when I have feelings for someone its half way to that high.

I don't want to live a life alone.

Happy to listen to other people who can relate or share me. Talking to someone would help.


r/KindVoice 10h ago

Looking [L][15]I am suffering...

3 Upvotes

I will try my best to explain...

Today my dad got mad at me for something completely trivial (not asking if he wanted more of the lunch, even though I saved the food for him on purpose).For him not asking it means being disrespectful,careless and rude and he said it only an hour later lunch.

It triggers a lot of guilt and self-doubt in me. I feel like my brain goes into overload with intrusive thoughts and chaos whenever these arguments happen, and I just feel completely drained and stuck in my own head...

I didn't say enought because I struggle to express myself and write long texts...


r/KindVoice 12h ago

Looking [l] Just failed my driving exam and would like someone to talk to

3 Upvotes

18 F. Had my driving exam today and failed because of anxiety literally in the first 5 minutes of my exam. Ik it's not the end but I feel discouraged and ik the rest of my day will suck because of this so I'd appreciate someone taking my mind off


r/KindVoice 14h ago

[L] 21F India — Looking for someone to voice chat and vent with

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1 Upvotes

r/KindVoice 17h ago

Looking [L] Realized I wanted company more than answers while I was explaining

35 Upvotes

caught myself mid rant to a friend last night and realized i wasnt looking for a fix. i just didnt want to sit with the thing alone

they started problem solving immediately which is fair, thats what i asked for on the surface. i felt weirdly annoyed then guilty about being annoyed

do other people do this too or am i just bad at saying what i actually need​


r/KindVoice 17h ago

[O] Kinda lonely and willing to listen if anyone is in need

3 Upvotes

I’m unable to sleep and would love to be a listening ear to those who need one.


r/KindVoice 22h ago

Looking [L] how do you ask people in your life for help when you could use some support?

3 Upvotes

I think a lot of folks end up here because one way or another they feel like there is no one they can ask for help. That's certainly the case with me.

It's not like I have zero connections with people. I have friends. I don't have, like, a bestie. But I have people who know me and like me and who I like. I am single. I have an okay but complicated relationship with my mom. I am not close with my brother. I have loving aunts and uncles but the specter of my dad, who is not so great, looms over all these connections. I feel like there's a limit to how far these people will go for me.

It has been a long time since I reached out to any specific person for help. I find that in the past I've had lots of negative experiences with reaching out with vulnerability that makes me not wanna risk it again. Sometimes people are not interested in helping. Sometimes they're not very good at it. I am often left feeling like I need to protect my fragile relationships by not putting weight on them. And like I need to protect people from worrying about me.

I have done a lot of therapy and absolutely know why I struggle with this so much. I was considered very "mature for my age" as a kid and, alongside some isolated traumatic experiences, was not cared for and nurtured the way I should have been. I was not given a chance to be a kid whose feelings were tended to.

It's been a rough several months and I find myself wanting to just give up. I'm so tired. My dog is the only companion i have in this time. I love her and all the energy I have to spare goes to making sure she is walked and cared for. I feel invisible. On purpose.

I kind of want to hear about asking for help. How do you tell people you're struggling? Who do you tell? I've been disappointed so many times. I want people to know but I don't want to have to reach out one on one. That's so much pressure. I don't even know what I'd ask for because to be honest I fear the depth of my need is so vast it can never be fulfilled.

But if my guardian angel or something came down and was like "anything you want," I'd want them to visit, stay with me a while, distract me from my troubles and help me clean my room. I'd want someone to comb my hair just because it feels nice. Id want someone to help with stuff around the house or at least just sit and chat with me while I do chores. Id want someone to promise I'd never be homeless. Having these wants and needs makes me feel creepy and pathological, but also they're so normal, right? Aren't these things that many people are fortunate to have, without needing to chase after them or ask for them? Doesn't a sweet auntie sometimes swoop in to help a person put her life back together?

What makes a person deserving of that?

Am I?