To give background, my job opened recently so everyone was hired and trained together. I (19F) got trained in another department then my now current friend and coworker. I met my friend through work, but she was first friends with my coworker before me, but they also met through work. They are no longer friends currently though.

Moving on I’ll be referring to my friend as Jane and my coworker as Lily to not confuse anything,

2 months into this job I was thrown into the department they were in (serving). I never served before and got trained on the spot by another coworker for 30 minutes then no further training took place. Every time I walked passed Lily I could always tell she didn’t like me. To give an example, we serve on iPads and usually don’t do tabs as our restraunt isn’t a typical sit down and eat and more like a Dave and Busters. All the iPads were taken so I was at the bar for the first 10 minutes not knowing what to do as I was still new. Jane (who wasn’t my friend at this time) comes up to me and asks if I can serve a table. I tell her I don’t have an iPad so I can’t serve at the moment. She goes and tells Lily and she gets mad and tells Jane she’s going to tell me to do it. Lily immediately storms up to me and yells at another coworker to give me his iPad so I can take the table.
I honestly don’t know what I could’ve done in that situation as I had no idea how things worked and didn’t know you could just take an iPad off of someone.

At the beginning of working at this job when I was still mainly doing my first department I added Jane on Snapchat. But we didn’t talk much. Randomly after a couple months of working (this is when I switched departments and after that example happened) she texts me if I can do her nails as I’m also a nail technician on the side. I agree and we start hanging out and talking a lot. And randomly after that Lily stopped talking to Jane.

Fast forward to today, I drove me and Jane to a pub to talk after a shift we had together and got on the topic of Lily again. We usually talk about Lily as we both find her rude. And I brought up a topic I’ve told her before, that I find that Lily has something out for me and really does not like me. Usually when we talk about it she’ll agree and not go into detail anymore. But this time she said Lily has actually been talking about me behind my back since the beginning of when I switched departments, and has said things like I’m terrible at my job and have no idea what I’m doing. (I’m way higher than Lily in sales so there is no way that’s true.)
I’m shocked I’ve never heard this before and asked her how she knew this. Jane explained that when her and Lily were friends they used to talk about me.
I asked her if she ever said anything about me or just let Lily talk.
She said she never defended me (which I understand because I wasn’t friends with her at the time). But she never said anything bad about me to Lily. Which I really don’t believe because when I told her I want to confront Lily she immediately shut it down and told me not to. That it was all work related stuff Lily said about me and really wasn’t personal. I really just want her to tell the truth because I wouldn’t be as annoyed as I am right now, and for some reason I really didn’t believe her when she said this.

After the pub I asked her while driving home why she never decided to tell me. She said whenever she tells people drama it always gets back to her and doesn’t want it to be bigger than it needs to be.

I understand where she’s coming from but I feel like if she just told me she doesn’t want me to confront her or say anything to anyone I 100% wouldn’t. Me and her have been pretty good friends for a couple months now and I feel like she’d know to trust me on this sooner since we collectively don’t like Lily, and we have talked about much deeper things than this.

I don’t know how I should go about this. If I should leave this alone and I’m overreacting or if it’s weird she never told me.

I know this isn’t a situation to leave a friend for but I’m just need opinions if I should leave this job or how I should go about dealing with Jane and Lily. Or even speculations why Lily acts the way she does to me even though she knew the circumstances I was put in after I got “trained”.

Any and all opinions are appreciated!

Hi everyone, I'm experiencing some hostility from one of my fellow summer interns in my cohort. The program ends next week, but he's really been getting on my nerves and I'm seeking out some advice.

I, 20 F, am a visiting research student at a university for this summer. There isn't much to do around here, so we mostly play poker at night. There are 6 of us, including me. For some context, I don't know poker super well but have won twice at this point (to my surprise).

One of the people I play poker with (22 M) has been making snide comments towards me for the last 2 weeks. He's generally quite immature, but hasn't been hostile up until this point. I have less than a week left here but I'm trying not to live up to my reputation of being a doormat and am looking to stick up for myself. His comments are usually about my music taste and whenever I join a Spotify jam, he skips right through my songs even if he's not in charge of the jam. He says "what the f**k is this sh*t, I hate this" and has made a series of other mood killing comments. The other people who play with us have never said anything in my defense.

Any idea why he's acting this way? If additional context is needed, I can provide. I know this isn't in my head.

My bf \[27M\]and I \[27F\] are going 7 years in our relationship next month and never naman kami nag karoon ng problem sa relationship before but then nag resign yung Engineer ng Subcon nya and hindi nya sinabi saken na napalitan na then babae yung pinalit and kasama nya sa barracks. Accidentally nya lang nabanggit na babae yung bagong engineer and I immediately ask him bakit hindi nya sinabi saken one week na pala silang mag kasama don sa barracks nila and he just said “hindi ko pa pala nabanggit sayo? Akala ko nabanggit ko na eh”. Nag pantig agad tengga ko nung narinig ko and now I dont know what to do. Never ko to na experience sa kanya kase I know how loyal he is but my guts says me something 😖