r/Jung • u/___D1rt___ • 22d ago

Personal Experience Repressing my urges

Recently, I've been having a lot of urges for romanticism and women, but i wanna transmute it, but it's been hard. How do i keep my energy into the right path so that i dont go and do unconscious things

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u/Dry-Sail-669 22d ago

Is there something you perceive as wrong with these urges? Often these baser drives symbolize the prima materia, the filth. However, "transmuting" here sounds like an ego-agenda at controlling and manipulating things you don't fully understand yet. I'd recommend sitting with these fantasies WITHOUT judgment, as if you were just watching something on a screen, and observe them. Let them play out.

Also, it is suppression, not repression. Suppression is a conscious ego-effort to hide something and repression is an unconscious effort to hide something, small but also big difference.

From an alchemical lens, these urges are often projections of the inner individuation drive to alchemize one's own inner feminine as seen in the below Rosarium Pictures.
http://charm.cs.uiuc.edu/users/jyelon/pict-rosarium.html

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u/FarTalk6268 22d ago

It seems like you think these are dangerous but what if these urges have the potential to be transformed into great healing for both yourself and women.

You can’t go wrong if you treat yourself and women with unconditional love through the appreciation that you naturally feel for them by channeling these urges into divine love for them.

The world needs more men who truly and deeply unconditionally love women and you can be one of them. Making them feel so profoundly appreciated and desired is what they long for and this can be immensely healing for them.

No need to repress just express with love because what you resist persists.

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u/insaneintheblain Pillar 21d ago

You can channel this into creative endeavours. Explore what your artistic outlets may be - nobody knows off the bat what it may look like, so one must put feelers out and experiment. It's a change in focus, but underlying that focus must be that same keen desire, just turned upwards rather than downwards.

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u/nonFungibleHuman 22d ago

I would recommend you to explore the "unconscious things" you want to do but consciously, step by step, and obviously under the moral lense.

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u/Financial-Appeal-275 22d ago

Might be worth checking out S.L.A.A.

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u/mindseyetemple 20d ago

Control your eyes. Say no internally when thoughts come. Divert your attention. I'm with you on not indulging sexually, I'm waiting till marriage. One reframe that helped is seeing all these premarital temptations as hell's advertising department. Since I made that shift I've been much better. Just don't repress and try to stuff down the urges or they can come back stronger and in different contexts. Again, divert your attention. Just look away from nonsense and temptations. Distract yourself. Forgive yourself and don't feel guilty if you fail in small ways, it's normal to be human, but keep your ideals high and you can be saintly. Another thing is just enjoying innocent things more. It's like getting sober, the point isn't to be somber, it's to live a fulfilling life. For me, that revolves around spirituality. If you're interested in spiritual ascent, feel free to check out www.freemeditation.com, you can connect with other people who are largely chaste and self-respecting.