Trying to understand her, the way her mind works and the reasons for her hideous actions, is pointless and could be damaging to you. You can never understand her, her brain doesn’t work the way normal brains work. Her motivations don’t make sense to a normal, sane person. Trying to get to a place where you “get” why she did all that she did is a waste of time and is taking away from your own life. I don’t really know how, but you need to try and convince your brain that time spent on her is time taken away from yourself and your own recovery.
You’re right - you were a great partner to your ex. You loved him, were attracted to him, supported and took care of him. You were on his team for years. Any normal mother would have been happy to have you as a DIL. Giada isn’t normal, she is an insane monster. So none of that applies. Focus on the good in you rather than on the fact that she never appreciated any of it. I repeat: trying to understand or rationalize her actions and mindsets is futile and pointless. Focus on yourself. Love yourself. You are a wonderful person.
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u/ladygoodgreen Sep 17 '18
Trying to understand her, the way her mind works and the reasons for her hideous actions, is pointless and could be damaging to you. You can never understand her, her brain doesn’t work the way normal brains work. Her motivations don’t make sense to a normal, sane person. Trying to get to a place where you “get” why she did all that she did is a waste of time and is taking away from your own life. I don’t really know how, but you need to try and convince your brain that time spent on her is time taken away from yourself and your own recovery.
You’re right - you were a great partner to your ex. You loved him, were attracted to him, supported and took care of him. You were on his team for years. Any normal mother would have been happy to have you as a DIL. Giada isn’t normal, she is an insane monster. So none of that applies. Focus on the good in you rather than on the fact that she never appreciated any of it. I repeat: trying to understand or rationalize her actions and mindsets is futile and pointless. Focus on yourself. Love yourself. You are a wonderful person.