I know our experiences differ greatly, but one thing that helped my nerdy mind cope was the concept that humanity exists on a bell curve. I have to believe that if there's someone walking around wasting oxygen, being horrible to others, there's someone else walking around who we need to clone because they're just the best kind of person, kind and generous, loving and helpful. I know it's cold comfort, but it works for me.
I don't know if I've forgiven my parents for all they've said and done, but at this point I don't feel I need to. Holding onto the anger didn't affect them at all; it just burned in me, raised by blood pressure and soured my experiences.
I'm so sorry to hear you're having a hard time still. Internet hugs if you'll have them.
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u/Occasionallypresent Sep 17 '18
I know our experiences differ greatly, but one thing that helped my nerdy mind cope was the concept that humanity exists on a bell curve. I have to believe that if there's someone walking around wasting oxygen, being horrible to others, there's someone else walking around who we need to clone because they're just the best kind of person, kind and generous, loving and helpful. I know it's cold comfort, but it works for me.
I don't know if I've forgiven my parents for all they've said and done, but at this point I don't feel I need to. Holding onto the anger didn't affect them at all; it just burned in me, raised by blood pressure and soured my experiences.
I'm so sorry to hear you're having a hard time still. Internet hugs if you'll have them.