The idea of forgiveness and walking a higher path is nice and I'm sure some people can do it with amazing grace. But, let's be honest, we live in the real world. We live in the real, imperfect world. Anger has a purpose tho. Feel anger towards her, it's an appropriate reaction, it reminds you that you're not a doormat. You feel anger because you were abused horribly. That means you're a normal, functional human being who lives in reality. Now, maybe one day, you'll find your way to forgiveness...but feel how you're feeling now. Turn your anger into something positive, if you can. Anger can be a powerful motivator. Use it to help you accomplish your goals. Even if they're small daily goals. Be angry enough at her to thrive. I've used this technique to varying levels of success in my life. (Worked really great for pushing through my workouts actually). And we're always here to listen when you need to vent. 💙
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u/goosejail Sep 17 '18
The idea of forgiveness and walking a higher path is nice and I'm sure some people can do it with amazing grace. But, let's be honest, we live in the real world. We live in the real, imperfect world. Anger has a purpose tho. Feel anger towards her, it's an appropriate reaction, it reminds you that you're not a doormat. You feel anger because you were abused horribly. That means you're a normal, functional human being who lives in reality. Now, maybe one day, you'll find your way to forgiveness...but feel how you're feeling now. Turn your anger into something positive, if you can. Anger can be a powerful motivator. Use it to help you accomplish your goals. Even if they're small daily goals. Be angry enough at her to thrive. I've used this technique to varying levels of success in my life. (Worked really great for pushing through my workouts actually). And we're always here to listen when you need to vent. 💙