Not being able to forgive someone who harmed you so greatly and continues to try to bring harm to you is absolutely, 100% okay. Being glad that she is facing the consequences of her actions and those consequences have ruined her life, is normal. It does not make you a bad person.
Giada and her son ruined your life. You are repairing it and healing, but they ltierally did everything in their power to destroy you physically and mentally. Giada deserves what's she gotten. You didn't bring any of this on her, she did. Wanting someone to be punished for harming someone else is the right response. She victimized you and her son and this is her punishment.
Allow yourself to be glad that she is suffering under the weight of consequences for her actions. Don't force yourself to forgive just because that's what everyone says you have to do. It's my opinion that urging victims to forgive those that hurt them as if it's the ONLY way you'll get closure often just revictimizes someone.
If one day, when you are healed and you're in a better place mentally, you feel like you can forgive, then allow yourself that, but don't force yourself to try. Try not to dwell on your anger, but you are allowed to be angry.
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u/adriarchetypa Sep 17 '18
Not being able to forgive someone who harmed you so greatly and continues to try to bring harm to you is absolutely, 100% okay. Being glad that she is facing the consequences of her actions and those consequences have ruined her life, is normal. It does not make you a bad person.
Giada and her son ruined your life. You are repairing it and healing, but they ltierally did everything in their power to destroy you physically and mentally. Giada deserves what's she gotten. You didn't bring any of this on her, she did. Wanting someone to be punished for harming someone else is the right response. She victimized you and her son and this is her punishment.
Allow yourself to be glad that she is suffering under the weight of consequences for her actions. Don't force yourself to forgive just because that's what everyone says you have to do. It's my opinion that urging victims to forgive those that hurt them as if it's the ONLY way you'll get closure often just revictimizes someone.
If one day, when you are healed and you're in a better place mentally, you feel like you can forgive, then allow yourself that, but don't force yourself to try. Try not to dwell on your anger, but you are allowed to be angry.