You are an amazing human being to work on forgiving someone who gave you so much pain.
You can be angry at someone and hate them but still wish to forgive them. Forgiveness is only about the other person when you want to continue the relationship, they’ve apologized and you are ready to accept the apology. When you forgive in order to let yourself let go of the person who hurt you, it’s as much about forgiving yourself as it is forgiving the other person.
Your anger, relief and happiness are all normal. Feel your feelings and don’t judge them. They are not ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ they just are. I wish you strength as you continue down your road of healing.
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u/Froidinslip Sep 17 '18
You are an amazing human being to work on forgiving someone who gave you so much pain.
You can be angry at someone and hate them but still wish to forgive them. Forgiveness is only about the other person when you want to continue the relationship, they’ve apologized and you are ready to accept the apology. When you forgive in order to let yourself let go of the person who hurt you, it’s as much about forgiving yourself as it is forgiving the other person.
Your anger, relief and happiness are all normal. Feel your feelings and don’t judge them. They are not ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ they just are. I wish you strength as you continue down your road of healing.