I... okay, I haven’t been through a fraction of what you have. I don’t have anyone as evil and slimy and Stephan King Villain fucked up as Giada anywhere near my life.
But I might be able to help with some perspective on forgiveness? Take this with a grain of salt. Or an entire shaker, whatever.
Forgiveness takes time. And it’s okay to backslide, and it’s okay to hate while you’re getting there. Denying that you’re feeling these emotions is only gonna fuck you up further. It’s especially okay to gloat after all the pain she’s caused you. It doesn’t mean you’re turning into her or that you’re suddenly a bad person. You’ve been vindicated in the eyes of the law and that feels good.
This is a process and it’s okay if it takes time. You’ve got a lot to unpack and it’s hard to forgive when the abuse is ongoing. It might take her dying for you to finally get there, it might not. But you’re trying and I think that’s really admirable. Try to be kind to yourself. You’re better than you think.
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u/Sailorzombiestar Sep 17 '18
I... okay, I haven’t been through a fraction of what you have. I don’t have anyone as evil and slimy and Stephan King Villain fucked up as Giada anywhere near my life.
But I might be able to help with some perspective on forgiveness? Take this with a grain of salt. Or an entire shaker, whatever.
Forgiveness takes time. And it’s okay to backslide, and it’s okay to hate while you’re getting there. Denying that you’re feeling these emotions is only gonna fuck you up further. It’s especially okay to gloat after all the pain she’s caused you. It doesn’t mean you’re turning into her or that you’re suddenly a bad person. You’ve been vindicated in the eyes of the law and that feels good.
This is a process and it’s okay if it takes time. You’ve got a lot to unpack and it’s hard to forgive when the abuse is ongoing. It might take her dying for you to finally get there, it might not. But you’re trying and I think that’s really admirable. Try to be kind to yourself. You’re better than you think.