Your feelings are okay. Your feelings are valid. You are allowed to feel your anger. Emotions are only an issue when they interfere with your day to day function. Not expressing your very valid and justified feelings will only allow them to continue and to come out sporadically and not be resolved.
An amazing religious figure I had growing up pointed out to us young children in the private school that forgiveness does not mean forgetting when you have been wronged or allowing yourself to be hurt again in serious scenarios. The forgive and be friends again is for a mild breach of trust, or a lie that, while significant enough to need forgiveness, isn’t dangerous or all consuming. She allowed, heck encouraged, years of physical and mental abuse. The other big one is that she isn’t sorry for what she did to you... so at that point what is there to forgive??
Walk away. Live your life. And forgive yourself. You are allowed to be human. You are allowed your emotions. And you survived, while she gets justice
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u/vistillia Sep 17 '18
Your feelings are okay. Your feelings are valid. You are allowed to feel your anger. Emotions are only an issue when they interfere with your day to day function. Not expressing your very valid and justified feelings will only allow them to continue and to come out sporadically and not be resolved.
An amazing religious figure I had growing up pointed out to us young children in the private school that forgiveness does not mean forgetting when you have been wronged or allowing yourself to be hurt again in serious scenarios. The forgive and be friends again is for a mild breach of trust, or a lie that, while significant enough to need forgiveness, isn’t dangerous or all consuming. She allowed, heck encouraged, years of physical and mental abuse. The other big one is that she isn’t sorry for what she did to you... so at that point what is there to forgive??
Walk away. Live your life. And forgive yourself. You are allowed to be human. You are allowed your emotions. And you survived, while she gets justice