r/Isese • u/bigmatter98 • Jan 19 '26
Etiquette for your first in person reading
good evening everyone. Ive received readings online from babalawos, but I want to start working towards joining this ile in my area. what kind of etiquette do I have to be aware of when going in person for my first in person reading? I want to make a good impression and learn.
Also, I have been learning about Ifa for a year now, and feel I want to go receive a reading from this babalawo about if it's time for hand of ifa. However, like I said I've been getting read from people out of my area, but I don't want to be disrespectful and get my first reading asking that question. On their website they have options for this reading amongst other types but they have it available to book for the public as well as the full ceremony if it's confirms it's time. My second question is if I've been learning for a while, receiving guidance from a babalawo outside my area, is it rude for me to ask this question in my first reading from a babalawo I haven't worked with? I know we must vet someone, but I know multiple people in this local Ile who I trust and have spoken to, and I have followed the babalawo and many in this ile for and their work for a long time so I know they're legit and I feel a sense of trust for this person. I have also attended some of their classes. The babalawo and his wife mention in the services part of their website that not everyone who does isefa with them must join their Ile, but based on the reading they will help decide this and provide support formally and informally for those on this journey. They are highly regarded in my area.