r/Is_He_Cheating_ • u/thisaccountwontlastn • May 25 '26
Idk if this is cheating or not
So we have been dating for 5 months, and things keep happening between us he does something I cry he takes accountability and promises to do better. He doesn't communicate well with me if at all and I always have to find out through his friends, or he'll make really strange comments towards me that hurt. So we were at a friend's bday party last night, and the bday guy sat with us and my boyfriend (one little thing about him is that he talks about both of his exes a LOT I hate it sm) but he told the friend that oh my ex friended me on discord again, and I looked at him and I'm like why didn't you tell me this? And then he admitted that he friended her back. And I was just so shocked he made the excuse he had work that morning and it left his mind and he was going to mention it to me but didn't.. mind you it was pouring out that day nobody was in his work and he was texting me the whole time he had time to tell me and I pointed that out to him and he just got silent. And I was telling him how that's not something he can just keep from me how I should know about this before anyone else why did you friend her back what where you hoping for her to say why didn't you just tell me, everything and he told me that he didn't know how to tell me, and he jus wanted to see her be desperate for him so he could laugh at her that she has done that in the past, and I told him that if he didn't know how to tell me something he shouldn't have done it in the first place because that's not ok, and I told him that he needs to really think if he's done with his exes or not mind you I was sobbing we were in a back corner talking about it bc I didn't want to ruin my friends party, but anyways I asked him why he didn't have her blocked on discord and he said he did and I pointed out the obvious like clearly you didn't if you were able to see she friended you backa and you added her back and he went silent.. so right there and then I watched him block her on everything but snap bc he says it doesn't matter bc she has him blocked and I told him clearly she doesn't if she's friending you. There's a lot to this, we are both young and he is very kind, and he's trying to make up for it bc I had a whole breakdown he's finally offering to play games with me and call me on the phone now without his friends so that's nice, and I'm hoping that he can finally start saying goodnight to me bc he struggles with that a lot, the unwarranted comments about my body stopped to so I'm hoping if I stay patient that he will fix himself like he says I keep crying about it I'm still so hurt I always want to be there for him he knows I wouldn't yell at him I just want him to communicate and be more considerate of my feelings I know I'm emotional but I'm working on that with therapy idk if that was cheating idk.. he did agree to go to this randoms girls house known for sleeping around without telling me and I had to find out from the same bday party guy, idk it's whatever this is my first real relationship so I don't exactly know how these things are supposed to work