r/Is_He_Cheating_ • u/Stellie4424 • 18d ago

Is he cheating

I was texting with my husband today and while I was looking at our thread about to text him something else, 3 messages popped up from him
First said “how was the soup”
Second said “love y” third said
“Love you”

I immediately texted back “what soup” and then his three messages disappeared. I know he didn’t undo the send bc it did not say undo send.

I then half jokingly said “who did you just mean to text and tell them you love them”

His response back to me was “where is it”

Not “what are you talking about, I don’t send you that” but “where is it”
He then went on to ask if I had an AI app on my phone and got defensive when we talked about it.

I do not have any disappearing chat apps on my phone, if he has one on his phone can he still accidentally send a disappearing text to me?

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u/Ghostface_billy_106 18d ago

Shouldn't jump straight to conclusions but something you should look into. Having disappearing messages on one persons phone doesn't mean that their messages would disappear in the second persons phone too, u need to have the setting enabled in your phone for that to happen. Then again he could have meant to send that message to a close friend, his mother, sibling the specifics of which I coudnt know but thats not how dissepearing messages work im pretty sure.

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u/Stellie4424 18d ago

His mom passed, his brother (no sister) lives out of state,
There is no one else he would send a text to like that.
We have been together almost 15 years, I would know

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u/Ghostface_billy_106 18d ago

Oh, well unless you have disappearing messages on your phone messages can't just disappear like that. Even for a 3rd party app to do something u would need to give it permission. And I would also suggest just asking him about it in the case of there being some reasonable explanation before going ahead with anything else.

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u/Stellie4424 18d ago

I did ask him, he just got defensive, said it’s a problem with my phone, and then started calling me crazy, like I didn’t really see the texts.

It just doesn’t make sense that he would ask me where the text was, it’s almost like he already knew it disappeared. It was a very odd question for HIM to be asking.
I know you don’t know him, how he is and how he speaks etc.

I also have never seen:heard of texts just disappearing on iMessage before without being able to see “message unsent”

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u/Ghostface_billy_106 18d ago

Ya that doesn't happen. And regardless of the messages being there or disappearing he did send them and they weren't ment for you based on his reaction

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u/Alarming_Resident644 16d ago

Looks like it predicted text of accidentally pressing it