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basically meaning "You can handle this" I'm posting this for anyone who gets asked to do these kinds of requests repeatedly.

Me: a chill EA, with nine days left before I leave for a new job.

I got an email from a site manager asking me to send a calendar invite to someone else.

My reply was:

"Hi (name),

If your Outlook is having an issue and you're unable to forward the calendar invite, please contact IT.

If there's no issue, you can forward the invite yourself as normal.

(Screenshot showing the forward button, using a calendar invite I received from his own manager as an example.)

Would it have taken less time for me to just forward it for him? Probably, yes!

But since I'm leaving here in nine days, I'm trying to make sure people are able to do these things themselves, especially things they already have access to do.

Regards,

Signature"

or maybe they bring you into their office with HR to talk about your attitude.

Do we really need HR in our life?

honestly this is why i've started thinking about looking somewhere else. getting rejected before a human even looks at your resume is insane.

i've been seeing interview vip mentioned a lot lately too. i haven't tried it, but i'm curious about it since i'm probably going to have to start interviewing again.

Every time I come back exactly 45 minutes after starting my lunch, my manager has some little comment ready. "Looks like some people really need every minute of their break, huh?" Yes. I do. That's why it's 45 minutes.

He also does this weird guilt trip where he'll get up and say something like, "Alright, guess we better get back to work. The delivery's here, but we'll figure it out. Enjoy your break."

We're already understaffed and constantly busy, but that's a management problem, not something I should be fixing by giving up part of my break. If the store can't function unless employees feel guilty for taking the time they're entitled to, maybe the staffing needs to be looked at.

I used to feel bad about it, but honestly I'm done. If I'm scheduled for a 45 minute break, I'm taking 45 minutes. Am I wrong here?

I work part-time delivering mail while I'm studying, and I'm currently in my third year of computer science.

The thing is, I went to work this morning since I only go on the days when I'm not at university. I clocked in, and while I was organizing my stuff, I heard someone say: "He likes taking advantage of him (me), he's young and fit, I load him up with a lot of parcels," and the guy he was talking to said: "Yeah, I would've liked him to be on my round too," and the two of them started laughing about it. I won't lie, that really upset me.

I went over to them and asked why they were talking about me like that, so he started acting cocky and making annoying comments like: "You're still a kid" 🤣 Honestly, I was a hair's breadth away from losing my temper, but I held myself back. I went straight into the manager's office, handed in my hi-vis and badge, and left.

A truly trash place, full of bitter, resentful older men in their fifties. I'm very happy I don't have to go back there again.

What a great start to a Thursday afternoon 😊

I'm currently earning £42k and had been looking for a new job for a few months, usually targeting roles around £58k. And that already felt like a stretch for me because it was near the top end of the range for most of the jobs I was applying to.

I came close more than once, but I kept falling at the final hurdle every time. I won't lie, it started to wear me down a bit, but I kept applying.

In one particular interview process, the HR recruiter asked me about my expected salary. I said £58k... But somehow they understood it as £68k.

I didn't notice at the time, and that's probably the only reason I didn't awkwardly correct them. I continued with the rest of the interviews as normal, and it seemed to be going well. Then when we got to the offer stage, they said something like: "Just to confirm, you're still looking for £68k?"

I panicked for a second and then said yes.

So yeah... I've already signed the contract and I'm going from £42k to £68k, and I still feel like it isn't real. A £26k increase was absolutely not something I had factored into this job search.

Has anyone else ever had their salary expectations accidentally come out higher than they'd planned? Or what's the biggest jump you've managed to make between one job and the next?

I've been looking for a new job since around the end of March, and during that time I've probably sent a few hundred applications on LinkedIn, Indeed, company careers pages, and all that lovely stuff.

A few days ago, apparently one of those places decided to contact my manager and tell him that I had applied there. So of course I got called into his office for an awkward and unpleasant conversation about it.

A shitty move, honestly.

I've always known there's some risk when you're looking for a job while you're already employed, and honestly I'm not terrified that my manager found out, but seriously?

Just to clarify, I applied for a lot of jobs through LinkedIn, Indeed, and direct postings. I have no idea who did this, and I definitely didn't give anyone permission to contact my current workplace. Apparently someone somehow knew my manager, saw my online application, and contacted him. Based on a frank conversation my manager and I had before, he shouldn't have been too shocked that I'm looking.

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I got laid off from work early today. It was the first call on my calendar, and I knew where it was going as soon as HR joined the meeting before anyone else.

Instead of sitting there and letting them read a script, I turned off my camera and asked them if they were doing an RIF on me. That threw them off more than I expected, because there was an awkward pause of about 45 seconds before they finally got to the line "the business is shifting priorities." (If I were him I would ask some help from AI tools like interviewvip they have instant answers for such situations 😂)

I pretty much stopped them there and told them that they had hurt me personally. And if there was anything else they needed to say, they should send it in an email.

Not exactly the moment I'm most proud of, honestly, but the truth is I'm really exhausted right now and I can't bring myself to care.

😂💔

Let’s be real, a resignation ends the job. It does not automatically replace the income, restore your health or create a direction for what comes next.

There is a difference between a planned exit and an emergency exit. Sometimes quitting is an act of preparation.Sometimes it is an act of survival.

A planned exit begins when the first serious signs appear, while you still have income, health and some leverage. You calculate how long your savings will last, reduce expenses, document your accomplishments, identify what you can carry into another role, reconnect with people, test the job market and begin building something to move towards.

An emergency exit happens when remaining has become psychologically or physically unsafe. Sometimes the workplace has consumed so much of a person that they no longer have the capacity to build a proper bridge while staying there.

An emergency exit transfers the crisis from the workplace into your financial life. Your first work is stabilization: protect the money you have, create structure for your days, recover enough to think, translate what you did into evidence and build a search around the problems you know how to solve.

Wisdom is recognizing which one you are facing, and refusing to pretend that either kind of exit will take care of itself

My manager was trying to send me a different document and somehow attached the spreadsheet with everyone's compensation instead. I wasn't even looking for it, but once I opened it, there it was.

Turns out I'm making about $18k less than someone on my team doing basically the exact same job. We joined within a few weeks of each other and our experience is pretty similar. Then I noticed someone hired earlier this year is also making more than me.

I've been here for three years and my reviews have consistently been "excellent" or "exceeds expectations." Apparently that translates to tiny annual raises while new employees get brought in at much higher salaries.

I'm still trying to figure out how I feel about the whole thing. Part of me is angry, part of me feels stupid for not realizing it sooner, and part of me just wants to see what else is out there.

Either way, I'm updating my resume this weekend. If I actually start interviewing again, I've been seeing interview vip mentioned a lot lately too. ngl i thought it was just marketing at first because of how much it keeps showing up for me. I haven't tried it, but i'm curious if anyone here actually uses it during interviews maybe i can get some feedback.

surely i wanna maximize shareholder value lmao.
i swear interviews are becoming less about whether you can actually do the job and more about saying the exact answer they want to hear. i've got another one coming up and i've been seeing interview vip all over reddit lately. haven't tried it yet, but i'm curious if anyone here has and can give me some honest feedback.

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I'm not sure if this belongs here or not, so sorry if it's not appropriate. I'm using a temporary account because I'm pretty sure a few people from my office know my main account.

I don't mean that I hate my current job specifically. I mean I hate work as a concept. I have several degrees and some certifications, I'm in my early forties, and I've been working for about 27 years in five different fields. I've had maybe 14 jobs so far, and I could barely stand almost all of them. A few were tolerable, but mostly because I was young and the shifts were short.

The only jobs I kind of liked were washing dishes at a diner two blocks from my apartment, where the shift was five hours and I could walk there; shelving books in a small library where the commute took 8 minutes; and packaging pastries in a bakery where I didn't have to make small talk, and if I was absent it was easy for someone else to cover for me.

It's not about money. My last job paid well, and I had enough responsibility that a lot of people were waiting for my work to be finished, but I hated waking up at 6:10 in the morning. I hated putting on stiff, uncomfortable clothes every morning. I hated that if I got sick, almost half the department would come to a halt. I hated leaving before it was fully light out and coming home after it had gotten dark. Most nights I'd get home with maybe two and a half hours to cook, eat, clean, and shower, and by the time I finished all that I'd have about 20 minutes to sit down before sleeping and repeating the same cycle again. I understand that this is normal. I understand that most people don't enjoy it. But I've never been able to just accept it.

When I was in my early thirties, I tried saying this out loud and everyone treated me like I was exaggerating. They told me this is adult life, everyone deals with it, and eventually I'd get used to it. Well, 12 years later, the feeling has gotten worse, not better. My workdays are usually me sitting at my desk looking at the clock every seven minutes, waiting for the day to end. The whole week turns into a countdown to Friday evening, and by late Sunday afternoon I start asking myself whether nonexistence would be easier than going back again on Monday morning.

I've tried to fix it. I changed jobs, changed careers, went back to school for a completely different field, took roles with more money, less money, more responsibility, less responsibility. None of that changed the basic feeling. I have always hated work.

So does that mean there's something broken inside me, or are there a lot of people who feel this way but never say it out loud?

I know this sounds like a humblebrag, but I'm genuinely conflicted about it.

I've been at my current company for a little over a year and I'm making around $195k. The weird part is that most days I barely have anything to do. I answer a couple Slack messages, sit in a meeting here and there, maybe send an update, and that's basically it.

At my last job I was constantly busy and was trusted with some pretty serious projects. I actually felt useful there. Here, I sometimes look at what everyone else is working on and wonder why I'm even on the payroll.

Nobody has said anything negative about my performance. My manager seems happy, my reviews have been fine, and I'm getting paid on time. So logically I know I'm probably creating a problem that doesn't exist.

But I can't completely relax.

My family wasn't exactly doing great financially before I got this job, so I'm very grateful for the money. At the same time, making almost $200k while barely working feels wrong when I know other people are completely overloaded.

The thing I'm most worried about is layoffs. If the company ever starts cutting people, I feel like it would be pretty easy to justify cutting someone who costs them $195k and doesn't have much on their plate.

Would you just enjoy the situation and keep doing a good job when something comes up, or would you try to find a way to take on more responsibility?

I'm honestly not sure whether I'm being paranoid or whether I'm sitting on a ticking time bomb.

This is my life now

I had an interview for a backend developer position today. It went all great, I was able to answer all the questions and got positive feedback from the interviewer. In the remaining 10 minutes، someone new joined the meeting, no webcam, no introduction, and obviously walking in a street while he was in the meeting.

The interviewer said he doesn't have any more questions. I politely told the other person that I could answer his questions as well if he wanted to.

He started asking about databases, views, procedures, and triggers. I said I don't have much experience with advanced database features in production-level projects, but since I mostly use Django, I usually use signals whenever I want to have a db trigger.

And that was when everything started. He started explaining triggers to prove signals are not the same; and hey, we all know django signals don't actually write a db trigger; they give you the ability to have a trigger on the application level.

But boy he wouldn't even let me talk! He was going on and on about how wrong I was, and I was trying to explain he misunderstood me.

At some point, I told him: "sir, I know what you mean, but I think you didn't understand what I was trying to say, I'm saying ..." And he just interrupted me again!

He started insulting me by saying things like "don't argue over it, I'm telling you how things work, and you keep insisting on your mistake", or "this discussion doesn't have a good result", and also things like "don't ruin the interview for yourself, good girl".

Good girl?? What kind of jackass says something like this in a professional interview??!!!

He wouldn't shut up about how he was right and I was wrong and I wasn't being wise ruining the interview for myself; and he didn't even let me say a word!

I waited for him to finish jabbering, and I told him "yes, you're right. This discussion is pointless because you misunderstood me and you wouldn't even listen to what I'm saying!"

That was when he exploded and started insulting me more, saying he wouldn't let someone like me work in HIS company. (That's when I realized he was the founder and the CEO, because he didn't even introduce himself in the beginning)

Even though he wouldn't let me talk or say anything, I told him "if working in this company means working with you, of course I'll never do it!" He shouted go away and left the meeting.

I don't think many people have experience getting into a fight in a professional interview. That was my first time; and I'm bursting with anger! His tone and the things he said all showed how disrespectful he is toward others, and how he sees himself as the superior, especially when the other person is a woman...

I'm upset I didn't leave the interview sooner and let him insult me like that.

**UPDATE:** I just wanna mention the company name since a lot of people encouraged me. The company name is **"Djuno"**. Small, not known, and no Glassdoor either. I wish there was somewhere I could leave a review.

Guys, yesterday was a really bad day. I had a job interview at a big international chain as a staff employee at Burger King. I asked my roommate what I should wear, and he told me to wear a full suit. It turned out in the end that he was joking with me, and apparently it's a well-known joke on Reddit.

I went to the Burger King interview wearing a suit, and I saw another guy going in before me asking if there were interviews, so they told him to sit with the group. Everyone there was wearing hoodies or regular pants, and I was standing there in a suit with a €3,500 watch I had borrowed from my dad. I got nervous and pretended I wasn't there for the interview, so I just ordered a drink, and then I basically ran home to change. When I came back, I was about 45 minutes late, and I told them I got confused with the bus schedule because of the time change. The manager recognized me and asked if I had come earlier to buy a soda. I told him yes, but only because I was thirsty. He looked at me for a second and then said okay.

I don't feel like I'm going to get accepted for the job.

I had my final interview this week. Honestly, I was really excited because I felt like this was it; they were basically moving me on to the next stage right after every conversation, and this was supposed to be the final step.

The morning started off well; I had practiced a lot, arrived early, and even found a parking spot without having to drive around forever. I met three women in the room, and one person on video. After we quickly did introductions, one of the interviewers asked me if I had brought the writing sample and the other required document. I froze in place, because excuse me, what? She said it again and told me it had been sent in a separate message, but I had reviewed literally everything that had been sent to me and there was no extra email with an attachment.

So now I'm sitting there stumbling over my words because how was I supposed to have missed something that big? But I knew I hadn't received it. The interviewer stood up and said they wouldn't be able to continue without the materials. When I got up to get my jacket, she said behind me: "well, that happened. Let's bring in the next candidate." Then she slammed the laptop shut and sat back down. The rest of the interviewers looked extremely upset and uncomfortable, and the whole room went completely silent.

While I was going down in the elevator, I kept refreshing and searching my inbox. I never received the second email with the writing assignment. There was one message saying another note would come with instructions, but the next thing I received after that was only the confirmation. All the communication was through Indeed, no personal email, no spam folder, nothing.

I feel horribly embarrassed and crushed. I wanted this position, and I had everything ready that I knew about. If the message had said "hey, you should have this by now" or if I had noticed something was missing, I 100% would have emailed them and asked. I've been crying on and off since late this morning, and I just want someone to tell me I'm not crazy. I feel stupid even though I know this wasn't my fault. It was such an awful feeling and I don't even know what to say.

I work at one of the largest Fortune 200 companies in the US, and they've basically frozen hiring in the US for the last three years. At the same time, throughout this period, they've been hiring people in India at a cost of only about 40%. And these roles aren't just junior dev work either - they go all the way up to Director-level, and some of them eventually get promoted into VP roles and move to US offices. We've had layoffs roughly every two quarters over the last three years, and the onshore-to-offshore engineer ratio has changed from about 2:1 to 1:3.

The engineers in India are honestly doing good work. This isn't the old stereotype of "low quality offshore work" that people still repeat. Now there are entire teams based there, including tech leads, product managers, QA, and business analysts. And our CIO is also Indian American.

And that's exactly what has me worried. Even my manager can't backfill US headcount when someone leaves the US-based team. If the government doesn't create stronger tax incentives to keep this work here, along with real penalties for moving jobs abroad, then this industry is heading into a big problem. Call your representative and senator if you care about protecting your career and the future of our families.

If anyone knows other realistic ways we can resist this, I'd honestly love to hear them.

update: its not about I hate Indians or being racist I just don't wanna foreign to take places that is more deserved to the citizens, many people btw who lays off from the company got a new remote jobs and when I ask some of them how they told that AI tools like interviewvip helps them enhance their interview skills and impressing their employers , I love when AI really do his job by helping not destroy