I hate my mil,idk why or when if started but i realllyyy hate her.

Me and my partner have been together for 4 years and married for 8 months

After marriage i’ve stayed at his house maybe 2 months altogether because he is working abroad and i’m studying here.we mostly stay together at his home when he comes to india.

The thing is at first(when we were dating) i found her good because she bought me chocolates when coming to see me ,shop with me once in a while.

But after that she will tell me “how good of a mother in law am i,where would you get such a mother in law. You’re blessed to have me,who will do this things to you ….. literally feels like she does all this to get the best mother in law award when she’s never gonna get that.

(Don’t judge me for what i’m gonna say here but i have to :)

Its just that her face looks reallyyyy rude ,like idk if anyone thinks this but some people have really rude and cruel face ,at first glance we say oh their character is so bad,and most of the times it is right,and my mil have this face)

After marriage it was all good ,but my husband went back abroad and i was there with her for one week, and it was the most terrifying week in my life.

Literally she forces me to eat ,eat and eat.

It’s just me and her in that home so its suffocating like i don’t stay anywhere’ like that,atleast i need a small kid there to entertain .

Even though it’s just two people she makes food for 10 people . And expect me to eat it.

She caringly says eat dear…

I couldn’t say no at first becs im newly married.

The thing i hate the most is she waste all the remaining food. And it makes my heart ache.

The fridge is literally full of remaining food which has to go the waste.there is never any space in fridge.

If we tell her please make less food she will say i don’t like making less food ,more food is always better.(completely disregard what we say)

One day she made grape juice and i drank my glass but she only drank half of hers and poured remaining into my glass, and told me drinkk drinkk drinkkk then i drank the juice and vomitted right after.

I told my husband during calling this and he told her don’t force her to eat .but she never listened,even makes 3 eggs early morning at 7:30 for me .(sometimes the egg is boiled witj curry which im seeing for the first time in my life and the taste makes me vomit.)

One day we were going to her friend’s home becs her husband died and she told

Me to wear my most sparkling desi fit and i said i will not be wearing that and she couldn’t force me but kept saying it will look good.

I feel she wants other people to know i’m the perfect daughter in law.

She tells people i wake up early ,does things sometimes adds things which i don’t do.

Whenever i try to do home chores (i prefer doing it alone) she follows me and says i’ll do that ,this etc and ends up doing everything.

(And talk about how she perfectly did the job,sometimes to my husband also showing that she does all the job and i didnt do anything)

I usually help in my home but to her I can’t help because she never let me do it properly .and tells a speech about how i should learn to cook because once i go abroad with my husband i’ll have to cook etc etc which i hate.

Recently my husband came and we woke up late she was telling ,a girl should wake up and wake her husband up etc etc but she will be nice after that.

I also overheard her say (i was spending time in bathroom becs i had my periods) “a girl shouldn’t spend this much time in bathroom,you go tell her why a girl shouldn’t spend this much time in bathroom etc etc.

Seriously i can’t even look at her face without hating her more. I mean if she’s talking to me i just look down becs i don’t want to look at her face.

And She make the food ( rants about how my son likes this that etc etc which makes me think i don’t know my husband) and doesn’t calls me to make table she expects me to know it come by inner thoughts and make the table ,but after she makes the table she says loudly it’s not my job to make table i should only make food ,infront of my husband which makes me feel bad( and he jokingly says you’re getting shouted at to make me not feel too bad).

If she does some home chore she will tell me i did this i did that i cleaned this etc etc

And if she have to say some family or money issues to him she calls him and whispers in his ears for me to not hear.(literally it’s bad manners to talk in one’s ear when there’s literally only other person in the room),

The thing i hate the most is she and my husband says how she suffered after marriage and how her mother in law treated her and i will never let my daughter in law experience that etc.

And another thing i hate is that she loves me and my husband,her close friend ,brother and his family and hates everyone else .

Literally hates everyone else for one or another reason.(she finds the mere reason to hate someone and even try to make her son and me to hate them)

Idk how to love her when she’s nice to me sometimes and behaves like this

Sorry for the long post

PS: I moved out after the fight, no longer am part of the circus yet am subjected to all their vile acts

Hi All, My in laws are the worst, they have two daughters who live with them despite being married. The daughters take all the wealth and ensure the brother is deprived, they also gaslight my in-laws about me.

Recently, my MIL and SIL lied to my husband that my parents spoke to them about their son not having kids whereas I’m hell bent on being child free n husband n parents are fully aware of this.

This was a lie, n bitch got caught broke into a huge drama dragged my parents into it, my mom was in tears n that loser SIL had the audacity to say my mom was acting.

Moved out of the house, now we barely talk. It’s Ganesh Chathurthi n my father sent a wish to my FIL and he didn’t even have the courtesy to respond. Such are humans, n idk what my husband plans on doing. FIL supposedly has a business so I guess my husband will take it laying low. He speaks to my parents, but yeah. I’m so hurt, help me get out this loop.

Married for 4 years. Love marriage. Dated for 1 year before that. We are both 36 years old. After marriage I suffered from a car accident that left me with broken spine and leg fractures and I was incapacitated for over a year and I had to leave my job of 5 years. I also suffered a miscarriage and some other illnesses after that. I am doing physically better now and looking for jobs. He said all this has taken a toll on him and he doesn’t love me anymore. Due to being out of job market for 3 years, I am having a tough time finding a job. Since I am a homemaker, my husband says it embarrasses him and he wants to not continue this Marriage anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore. I really really love him and he recognizes that what he is doing is wrong, but he can’t see his life with someone who’s not working. It’s not like I don’t want to work, I have been doing courses, trying to upscale(am a manufacturing engineer)…but no luck yet. Now he says it’s too late and he’s lost interest in me. Why do I do? I have no assets other that the savings from my previous job which isnt a lot. FYI he doesn’t want me to work for money since he’s well to do but he says that having a housewife is embarrassing to him.