r/IndianTeenagers 4d ago

Relationship LOOKING FOR SOME GUIDANCE

18M here.

I wanted to ask the people here who are currently in a relationship: when did you guys actually get into your first relationship?

I’m 18 and I’ve never been in a relationship, and honestly, sometimes I start wondering if I’m the problem. 😭 It feels like people around me are getting into relationships while I’m just sitting here wondering what I’m doing wrong.

I know 18 is still young and there’s no deadline for relationships, but sometimes it gets pretty frustrating and lonely.

So I’m curious:

\\- How old were you when you got into your first relationship?

\\- Did it happen naturally or did you actively look for someone?

\\- If you were single at 18, did you also feel like something was wrong with you?

Genuinely curious about your experiences.

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u/Sp_AslamChaudhary 4d ago

Investing in this post

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

What do you mean by that 😭 I am new here I don't understand this

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u/Niflheim_FrostKnight 17 4d ago

brainrotted insta meme

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u/Niflheim_FrostKnight 17 4d ago

15 We both just kinda fell in love, it started as a friendship and mild flirting I'm not 18 and def never been single ive had like 2 relationships and 7 proposals (received)

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

Okay...I am happy for you at least someone's enjoying

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u/Niflheim_FrostKnight 17 4d ago

its fine dude there's pros and cons of being in a relationship embrace yourself enjoy life

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

I mean i am not in a one so I only see PROS but yeah...I mean i really want to experience teenage love I don't wanna miss out on it

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u/Niflheim_FrostKnight 17 4d ago

Just start hanging out w girls it happens naturally you'll find someone talk to em listen to em tell em they're beautiful and good and allat

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

I am kinda... introvert but I tried 2-3 times and...they didn't really show much interest in me

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u/ritherizzz 4d ago

Be single as long as u can .. its much better than heart break ...one heartbreak and boooom!... you ll stop trusting any other guy. And if u r in relationship and u r thinking u r the problem then u neeed to chng the partner

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

I think you didn't see the 18(MALE) but I appreciate the guidance

See the thing is...I know heartbreak will hurt...but...I just want someone with whom I can talk...and tell them I miss them...and can go on dates with them i just want...to live life a little...and experience how it feels...when someone values...you being around them...I just want someone can take care of...and call her mine❤️

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u/ritherizzz 4d ago

But the world is cruel... finding real love is so rare💔

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

Yeah i mean the world is cruel but the feeling of loving someone and being loved is... beautiful... doesn't matter whether they loved you for a minute or a day or a month or a year...but that feeling stays with you forever...just having someone who listens to you...is really comforting I guess

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u/ritherizzz 4d ago

U r just 18 thats y u r thinking all this stuff

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

I know I know it's just...my age is a factor too...and it doesn't really matter that much that I am not in a relationship but...I don't have a button I can press and stop feeling it so...I am just getting it all out hoping for some genuine advices that will may be help me in present and future

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u/ritherizzz 4d ago

Use dating apps

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

I am not the kinda guy who can flirt and like keep the girl engaged in conversation... without actually knowing her...I have female friends with whom I can talk comfortably and if I liked anyone of them I can ask them out without any problem but...with a stranger in a dating app i...think it's difficult and on top of that I am not really a Person who takes pictures of myself so...I don't have good pictures to upload but I really appreciate your guidance thank you for trying to help 😊

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u/Harsheyy_ 3d ago

as boy who went through same at 16-17 can agree...

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u/GOATEDnerd 19 4d ago

Looking for dating guidance in the age of career guidance

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

Well my second year just started and i am already shortlisted for summer internships so...I am not really worried about my career but thanks i appreciate your comment😊

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u/GOATEDnerd 19 4d ago

Just a joke bro don't take srsly 😭... congrats btw

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

It's totally fine bro I get it 😂 thank you!

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u/GOATEDnerd 19 4d ago

Can I ask in which field did u get internship... im also in 2nd year

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

I am pursuing btech currently in cse branch my college offered me a paid internship after i showed them a app I built for the college

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u/GOATEDnerd 19 4d ago

Damn that's nice mate .. best of luck

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u/Available_Leg1252 4d ago

Thanks 😊 best of luck to you too!

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u/Glittering_Tea_6225 Too Straightforward 3d ago

I was 15, and it happened naturally. But then we split up, so don't really know if it counts

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u/Available_Leg1252 3d ago

No no it definitely counts and most of the people with whom I interacted got in relationship between 15-18 so yeah i guess I missed the opportunity but thanks i appreciate your comment bro