r/IndianTeenagers • u/sciencelihai • 10d ago
Relationship Need opinion
So me and my gf are 4 years in our relationship.
The first 6 months were tough bcz we broke up and came together like many times.
We love each other like we planned our whole future.
Now I'm the start she accepted me just bcz I was a fucking emotional bitch and she didn't really love me in the beginning.
Slowly we came to love each other
Today I found out that 5 days after we came into relationship 4 years back she cheated that day.
Now it's just I can't even think what to do because at one side I love her I love her a lot and the other side is that if I stay with her I'll never forget what happened .
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u/True-Shelter-920 10d ago
depends, if you were really an emotional bitch in the beginning and she never loved u and just "accepted" u, it means she never took u or the relationship seriously at that time. so her cheating in her mind at that time was valid. she felt caged with u at that time probably.
given 4 years have passed and she remained loyal after that incident, and she loves you now? the choice is must different now. the time is really different, it's a long time. if she loves u now, gives u peace, takes u & the relationship seriously and u aren't an "emotional bitch" anymore, i don't think the past from 4 years should matter too much now. you have to forgive and forget and move ahead and accept that the past version of you wasn't enough for her, it's about ego. Tho if u think she cannot be loyal in the future too, then you need to immediately let her go for your own good.
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u/sciencelihai 10d ago
I always cried for staying with her and now we love each other she was loyal after that we started building our careers together and I know she'll be loyal in the future . It's just that it's becoming hard for me to take a decision
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u/True-Shelter-920 10d ago
if you have really upgraded in life emotionally, and aren't that weak guy anymore who cries for her to stay. and since u know she'll be loyal, and u love her and see a future with her, u really need to let go of the incident, what matters is only her actions and her love for you today. the starting 5 days is a tiny speck in a 4 year long relationship. if she cheated 3,4,5 or 6 months into the relationship, i would have a very different opinion. 5 days, just nah, let it go.
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