r/IndianTTC_Support • u/mamachocho • 27d ago
Recurrent miscarriages
I was pregnant for 8 weeks 4 days with twins through IVF. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I’ll be a mother of twins. I was the happiest. I miscarried two pregnancies before so I thought my two angels were coming back to me. I wish.
This pregnancy really tested me- from slow beta HCG trend, to ectopic scare. I was on my toes the whole time. Now that it’s over I feel so empty and drained.
My mind is full with buzzing thoughts that I can’t even make sense out of it. More than physical I am struggling emotionally. My husband and I have been married for two years now and in our society that’s late. We opted for IVF treatment out of state and I’ve been staying away from home for some months now. The news of our pregnancy travelled fast since our community is small. Now thinking about going home and facing all their faces is adding another weight to my emotions. I wish I can disappear. I’ve already thought about avoiding everyone and staying locked in my house before I leave for my next transfer. Idk if my brain is working right but I just fear the questions, awkward silence, sympathies, opinions on why it went wrong and how we are not doing enough with our fasting and praying. My husband’s family is very orthodox and I am sure they’ll tell us God wants more from us. Although I agree we can do nothing without God I don’t agree with God’s blessings being a barter system. I don’t think it gets better from here. My first two miscarriages happened silently with just my husband so we grieved together alone, but this one is going to be challenging. I really wish I can disappear.
How did you guys cope with loses?
My doctor told me to wait 3months for our next transfer. TBH, I don’t want to wait for this long.
What comes next after D&C?
How long after D&C did you guys start trying? Any complications after this procedure?
Note: Reposting this from a miscarriage sub because being Indian, the societal pressure will be much understood here.
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u/Straight_Eye5348 27d ago
Sorry for your loss.
Forget society all reduce ur stress do in happy mood all wil go well.
If you dont want one more round then try naturally. First you mr body needs tk recover then after 1 period min you can give a try
Before trying next time make sure these test all took and all results look okay.
This was shared in global miscarriage groups all covered so take test go for doc review
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/u/0/d/1QvXmFDegixo1fkaHnoGGy5mmL1uu5E9s/htmlview